Bit of a long story, but we really need some advice ASAP!
My partner has two lovely kids who we both adore (they're 3 & 4). His contact with them has increased since we moved in together, and they have been staying overnight with us two nights a week, and every other weekend Fri-Mon AM. Not only has this been great for my partner (and me ), but the kids are obviously benefiting hugely from spending time in a home where they come first. Their mother is lax when it comes to dressing/cleaning/feeding the children and we are constantly dismayed by things such as dirty underwear, neglect of medical conditions e.g. ezcema and the kind of language used in front of the children.
My partner has been fair in paying maintenance since he and ex split, plus she gets all the CB/TC and is living in the 'family home'. However, he has altered the amount of maintenance to reflect the number of nights they now spend with us, and ex has decided that rather than sacrifice the cash, she will just stop us having the children overnight. She believes that we have increased contact with the children to lower the maintenance payments- no mention of love, our wish to spend time with the kids, or any consideration of the children's wishes/needs etc AT ALL She has 'offered'that we can take the children out, or to our house, on the two evenings a week, but that we have to take them back to hers for bedtime. This is nonsense and means our quality time with the children will mainly be spent in traffic and explaining why the routine they are used to has changed.
Cut a long story short- how can we stop her doing this? She has demanded that we see her in court, and things were going down that route anyway, but we can't wait for months to sort this out. Is there some kind of order we can apply for in the meantime? My partner has 50% PR and we are able to offer a stable environment, routine etc. She is now quoting that we are unable to get the oldest to school on time, and that this is the reason for the change, but it's not true- it's all over the £24 loss to her pocket. Please help/advise, we're so miserable over this.
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NewAlmostStepMum · 05/12/2009 12:32
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