Just wanted views on a argument I had with BF and if I was the one in the wrong! Thought posting here would give good views as many are mothers as well as step mothers.
My children only see there dad once a month for one day and one night (24 hours in total) and I may be totally unreasonable saying this but I love those 24 hours, no cooking, cleaning, entertaining kids etc.... That's my 24 hours to do as I please, go out if I wish, have a lie in and not worry or have to think as a mother for the day, that's only a total of 12 days per year and I love it I think the little day off makes me a better mum!
So my bf has a son and his ex wife changed his contact days back in the summer saying he can only have son one day a month overnight as she herself had her step son every weekend and wants her son there to and yep you guessed it it always falls on my weekend I'm child free! (Bf also had one weekday evening contact to)
Now I'm totally fine for my bf to have his son this weekend but have requested that he keeps him at his house for the day/night instead of always bringing him to mine as I don't want to spend my little tiny bit of my day off feeding/entertaining a child!
So this has been causing a few issues and bf refuses to ask his ex wife to change the weekend even every other month (which I suggested as a compromise) stating that his ex wife holds all the cards and it has to be on her terms!
So basically a huge fight broke out when my bf said I should Tell my ex that the current weekend arrangement doesn't work for me and that I want to change my weekend and as he refuses to pay maintenance he has no say in it and that if he doesn't agree then I stop the children seeing there dad altogether!
Now I wasn't happy with this at all, no my ex doesn't pay to support his kids, but things have been very hard especially the first 3 years after the spilt (think police etc) and it's taken along time to get to the stage we are now, regular contact and able to actually talk to each other at drop/collect etc.
So we had a huge fight about it and I have said I am not going to rock the boat with my ex and not let the kids see him if he doesn't change his weekend as it's not fair on the children and they are the only ones who will suffer and if he wants to see me on that weekend then it's down to him to sort it out with his ex and not expect me to use my kids as a porn!
We are currently not talking after slamming phones down, so was I right or and I being a bitch not taking his son into consideration?
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Was I in the wrong here??
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Whateverwhenever · 24/11/2014 16:23
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