Hi everyone,
Have posted here before and found it really helpful.
My partners son (I'll call him dss in future as its quicker, although we are not married) is 7, and lives in a different city with his mum. I enjoy spending time with him and like him very much.
I find it hard sometimes as he can have massive tantrums very easily, and I feel like I'm not allowed to get involved in discipline. My dp (who is lovely btw) has mentioned that he finds it strange when people who are not the parent discipline the child (this must be the only thing we disagree on!)
Dp also doesn't give dss a strict bedtime when he is here as it is during the holidays, so I feel like I never get any time to myself.
If I want to watch a programme in the evening I have to do it to the sound of quite loud playing in the background, so its impossible.
I am a teacher so my only time off is during the school holidays.
In the summer holidays, we normally have him every other week.
This year, his mum wants us to have him for five weeks. Five weeks.
I feel like a horrible person, but I am gutted. I look forward to the summer holidays so much. Time to myself, spend time with dp, chill out, do whatever I like. But it's been taken away, I won't be able to do any of those things. The entire holiday (bar one week which I'll spend in school because its the week before we go back) will be child centered.
I just don't know what to do to make it easier and feel quite upset. I do like my dss alot, but it makes everything so different. I just wanted some time to relax, and I feel like I will never get it :(
Its just the little things, like getting up late, chilling in my pjs, goinf for a walk at my own pace, coming back and watching whatever tv I fancy. I was so looking foward to it :(
I'm so sorry if I sound horrible, I'm not I promise! I'm just abit upset.
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LollyPop87 · 19/04/2014 10:59
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