Not a question as such, just needed to get this out of my system really.
DP and ex have a shared residency order, 50:50 residency and alternate Christmas'. Last year in "his" Christmas we collected them Xmas Eve morning and they stayed til Boxing Day evening.
This year it's "her" Christmas as per the order. So he text her last week asking to make arrangements for times/days over Xmas to pick up and drop off as it's outside the normal pattern. We were pretty upset the DSC wouldn't be here for Xmas of course , they are still young so it's all very magical for them still, they are firm Santa believers, ridiculously excited etc. plus it's our baby's first Christmas so it would have been great to all be together. However we had accepted it was her turn to have them & that was that.
Anyway, DP asked for what she would like to do and she replied she'd like to collect them late morning Xmas day and them come back to us Boxing Day morning. DP replied to check we hadn't misunderstood/typo and she confirmed it was correct. She said it seemed "pointless" then coming to her Xmas Eve as she will be out in town meeting friends during the day and therefore wouldn't be able to collect them til the evening and on Boxing Day she was visiting family.
I just don't understand it . The best bit is Xmas Eve and Xmas Day morning but she's perfectly happy not to see then then. I know other people see things differently and obviously DP won't say anything to her as we are very happy that they will be with us for the important bits, but I find it's a little bit sad that she isn't isn't fussed. I can't imagine Xmas Eve without my children, this is the 3rd year running (by choice) she hasn't had them: no leaving mince pies for Santa, no putting pressies under the tree, no Xmas Eve cheesy family film, no seeing their excitement and them not being able to sleep, then running downstairs Xmas morning, stockings etc.
As I said, not going to say anything to anyone about it in RL but between me and you and as a mum myself, I just can't get my head around it.
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mumtobealloveragain · 05/12/2013 12:42
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