As you know from my previous thread about bullying and Ritalin, I arranged a meeting with SENCo and my ds's class teacher tonight. I also invited Parent in Partnership which I didn't want to mention to them as he used to be the SENCo's colleague. I was told (eventually) that the Head would not be attending as this wasn't how things are done).
The meeting started off badly due to a long "conversation" I had with the SENCo on Friday in which she said that there was no record of the Aspergers dx on my ds's file. I was livid - to put it mildly, but was ready for a fight today. Pretty much, that's what I got.
She didn't acknowledge me at all upon meeting - not even a hello, and only made conversation with her ex colleague. Then we all sat down (in ds's classroom on little chairs - no office available apparently) and she looked at me and said "well?".
With the help of PiP earlier I had written an agenda and took with me all the paperwork I could possible need for the meeting. It lasted an hour and during that time, the PiP only spoke once. The SENCo was, in my opinion out to score points and made it known that she did not like me. She was cold and totally up herself - obviously she was the expert on Aspergers, not me - I put her right on that one though!
There were several instances where she was extremely condescending but the two most unbelieveable ones were 1. she said that she would not let me look in ds's file. She clutched it to her and wouldn't let it go and said that I couldn't see the IEPs. The last one I had sight of was from Jan 03, nearly 2 years ago. I was not involved in the process which I understand should happen. There were 5 previous copies of IEPs and I asked to look at them. She refused quite a few times point blank and I stood up to her and said it was my right to and eventually she said that they would make copies of them and post them to me tomorrow! GRRRRRRRrrrr! The woman is obviously stupid! I eventually after a lot of arguing and staring at her, got copies of them.
2. She said when the copies were being made that she thought it very impolite and discourteous of me not have mentioned inviting PiP. I apologised and said that after the meeting on Friday and being spoken over for virtually all of the 20 minute conversation, I was not willing to share that information with her, and also I was aware that the PiP representative was an ex colleague.
I left the school with PiP and he said that I had done very well in standing up to her and making my points and personality aside, how did I think I had done? I raised my hand to show him how it was shaking - I got home and cried - alot.
I am going to write a letter of complaint, which will have everything in, and if this is not dealt with in a satisfactory way, will take it to the Governors. I am still very mad and not sure if this is clouding my judgement, but should I have been treated like this or was this out of order?
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Chocol8 · 19/10/2004 23:24
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