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Come be an angry head with me!

(102 Posts)
frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 09:56:43

It's nothing in particular just the usual little things that sets ds apart. Plus I'm really tired, plus tired of running after dd 2 who thinks everytime I say " come on this way" it's an invitation to play chase.
And I wish ds ASD would just piss off and leave my little fella be.
Come join the angry thread and get it out of your system - wish there was a scary head emoction

sazale Sat 13-Apr-13 13:59:49

Best thing is he told me about the NAS bowling sessions when I'd told him during the assessment that I volunteer with the local NAS. He'd forgotten about that. Even bigger sigh

MareeyaDolores Sat 13-Apr-13 13:43:31

Sazale <sigh>
Quickly email the most snooty and Tarquin-sounding group and ask if they would manage fairly extensive SN. Or do they think might dc require a trained 1-1 to access their service wink

Copy response to dozy SW

sazale Sat 13-Apr-13 08:55:29

Can I moan about social worker who came to do initial assessment and then the next day rings me up to see if I use netmums and have I seen the local groups that they advertise?

2006hildy Sat 13-Apr-13 01:26:53

Hi,
I'm sooo angry over impending tribunal I can't sleep. So searched "angry ASD" and got this thread.
Had a good laugh especially at "barstad curb","son of a biscuit" I will be using that one and now more more relaxed so will go to bed soon.
I just wish my little ds was talking more so we could have some good laughs together. They are funny hmm.

LimboLil Fri 22-Mar-13 14:29:54

My son's fave phrase at the moment, from Horrid Henry, "That is disgusting behaviour young lady!". He also has an unfortunate tendency to wander off to the HT's office ...

MummytoMog Fri 22-Mar-13 11:47:02

I get told about DD's use of rote language a lot. But I teach her hilarious phrases and words, so I don't know what they're complaining about. Sometimes they're even relevant. Still can't get her to say Kwizatz Haderach properly though, and she really struggles with the sibilant fricatives in the dark language of Mordor.

autumnsmum Fri 22-Mar-13 10:36:00

Can I add dp along with portage worker .i have been told that once statement is completed dd will most likely be offered a place at asd specific special school cue huge row with dp who wants her in mainstream despite not reading reports , viewing schools coming to meetings etc

LimboLil Thu 21-Mar-13 22:29:11

Echolalia! Not the actual act of it (though granted it can drive you seriously nuts) but my son's school's daily reporting of it in his communication book. Just not entirely sure what point they are making? Do they actually recognise what it is? Should I enlighten them? Are they bored of his current repertoire or would they like me to introduce some new material to him because they fancy a change? There. I am drained beyond belief today, but mustered up a tiny bit of anger at the eleventh hour!

Walter4 Thu 21-Mar-13 22:08:29

Wooly , have you looked at PDA ? The methods useful on PDA kids might help you manage her a bit easier.

frizzcat Thu 21-Mar-13 19:27:34

It seems there are a few more bastards lurking and some semi-bastards, i i think chips-gate may have to filed under the "brain engagement fail" category - however I'm open to payment and persuasion wink

I'm adding pavements to the bastards - as I skidded and fell on one this morning running after dd (she's getting reins) in front of all the grammar-PTA- NT- perfect bastard mums!

cheekkatb Thu 21-Mar-13 19:22:59

Can I randomly add 'fairground' rides. Son (ASD) spends hours imitating fairground rides cue lots of arm flailing and squealing. Does my f....g head in!

signandsmile Thu 21-Mar-13 19:20:02

Gotta grin as I too have a dh who would do that, and not see any other possibilities,

coff33pot Thu 21-Mar-13 18:53:19

ah right well then in answer to that you could try saying yes I did rustle up something I buttered a loaf bread as its chip buttys for tea......

He may just MAY think of buying additional items next time grin

ouryve Thu 21-Mar-13 18:52:13

lougle - wish I could send you a little of DH obsessive fannying on.

ouryve Thu 21-Mar-13 18:50:29

My DH would be what chips? Where you you want me to get them from? How many should i get? Right, they do this size portion for £4 and this size for £5, which would you like? Cod or Haddock?

Just buy some bloody fish and chips for us all, man!

lougle Thu 21-Mar-13 18:46:10

I've had to leave the room. Apparently it is perfectly reasonable to conclude that I have had time, within the 30 minutes that I 'only' had DD1 and DD3 while DD2 (the easiest of the three) was at her disco, to rustle up the 'main' element of dinner. This is because 'chips please' implies that I want chips, and at any rate, surely it would open debate as to whether I want 'fish' and chips or 'sausage' and chips.

The thought that he could have clarified whether we wanted fish or sausage is, apparently, a vast leap of communication pathways that is as improbable, as, well, oil and water mixing.

In fact, his interpretation was the only interpretation angry

LimboLil Thu 21-Mar-13 18:38:26

ps my hub is the same, he takes things VERY literally looks at son with ASD son, back at hub and scratches head thoughtfully

LimboLil Thu 21-Mar-13 18:37:42

I wish I hadn't read that Lougle, I SO want chips for tea now!

PolterGoose Thu 21-Mar-13 18:36:49

lougle very sorry but grin at 'just chips', that is exactly what dp would do.

However, YADNBU

coff33pot Thu 21-Mar-13 18:36:09

grin @ Lougle oh sorry but grin

I thought I was the only one whose husband did that!

Tell me again ....we love them because??

lougle Thu 21-Mar-13 18:28:43

To my husband:

If I text you 'Chips for tea, please' do not just bring home chips, assuming that I must have had some other culinary delight whipped up to go with them, especially as you know that the Home Start lady is in Germany and I am at home with the 3 children on my own, having had to drop DD2 at a school disco at 5pm and pick her up at 6pm with DD1 and DD3 in tow' angry

P.S. I know I am unreasonable. I realise that I should have known that his literal interpretation of...well, everything, will lead to him following my exact instructions. I know that I should not assume that he can think 'beyond the box', however miniscule that box may be.

P.P.S I don't feel reasonable angry

LimboLil Thu 21-Mar-13 17:42:49

Anyone else feeling drained today after all that anger yesterday?!!!

Ilisten2theradio Thu 21-Mar-13 17:02:23

Love your DS's response Coff33pot

Poltergoose - nice to see change afoot.

I have just written to ask how Autism outreach can be insinsitive of chld's fiddle toys ( helps concentration and snsory overload) while leading social skills group. He works in the SS FFS. Surely he should know better. I get the distinct impression that this round of socila skills that I bullied the school into doing ( to comply with statement) is going to be a complete waste of time.

ouryve Thu 21-Mar-13 16:31:44

Perfect response, coffeepot!

PolterGoose Thu 21-Mar-13 16:27:19

bochead angry

<shudders at thought of no washing machine>

Update on my angry rant about supply teacher:

Was called in after school (caused the usual dread that ds had done something terrible) to be told that HT (new one appointed after shock retirement of old one when school put in special measures) is taking my complaint very seriously and that children in class have been questioned about their experience on Tuesday, that his TA is given permission to assert herself regarding ds's needs (old HT very much of view that TAs should be seen and not heard) and that they are looking to change the way they communicate children's needs as well as their use of supply teachers. I am in shock they have responded so quickly and taken it seriously, this never used to happen with old HT who probably wouldn't have even let the teacher talk to me about it. And he has been given a Move-N-Sit cushion without fuss, another parent had to wait months for her ds's under old regime. Change is afoot at last.

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