Ds2 has never slept well. He has never slept through and wakes 3-5 times for bf every night. I have tried not feeding, I have tried upping calories in the day, I have tried cosleeping. He won't feed lying down either. He has dropped all but one daytime feed. He is dairy free and won't drink any alternatives. Last night dh went to him and cuddled and tried to settle, didn't leave him to cry at all, and he screamed hysterically for 1.5 hours until I eventually gave up and went in to feed him. He then woke twice more before morning. I am on my knees. I don't know if it is separation anxiety or teething or what. He settled ok at bedtime without a feed and within 15 mins with dh sat by cot, no intervention. It is just the nights and I don't know what to do anymore. I need to night wean, I just don't know how. Dh said if I hadn't gone in at 3 am this morning e would not have gone back to sleep til morning. He wants to try again tonight but think it's pointless, now we have sent the message that if he screams long enough dh will come and get me. Sorry this is all incoherent I am on my phone and am just too tired to compose myself let a lone this post :( I can't do cc. I just can't. I don't know what to do.
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OP.
It is a while ago now for us thank god but I read somewhere that giving the same number of feeds but gradually making them shorter and shorter was the best way (my DS will scream til he is sick if thwarted so cry it out wasn't an option for us). It took a few weeks, but it did work for us. Might be worth introducing a soft toy to your feeds, then he can still have that when you stop feeding.
Good luck
Maybe a long shot OP but have you cut out wheat for him?
My dd has cmpi so we've been dairy and soya free for a while. Cut out wheat products a couple of days ago and her sleep is a bit better. Her dad is wheat intolerant so wouldn't surprise me one bit if it was irritating her as well.
Here's a hug as well (((()))) bollocks to the unmumsnetty bit. Sleep deprivation is fucking awful
Not at the cost of his sense of security though. I can't hear him That hysterical.
But you are doing at the moment! Screaming hysterically for 90mins. I don't think either of mine have ever screamed for that long 
If you're refusing to do CC (which is what this situation needs) I can't really see what else you can do except accept the lack of sleep. What's the point of asking for advice?
As I said, you are trying everything. It's too much. Try one thing.
Personally I think you have to break the association with feeding rather than the association with you when he wakes. Is there any way you can get a good sleep in the day so you can cope better at night whilst you sort this out over the next few days? I always used to feed my 15 month at night but it was just once a night so I wasn't utterly sleep deprived. All my three just grew out of night waking and I never did controlled crying or any forceable night weaning. I quite enjoyed those quiet feeds but it wasn't 3-5 times, definitely not.
BUT I would say that I made a point of never feeding them more than once in a night if they woke unless they were actually ill; I can remember the light sleeper waking and me just comforting him and putting him back in his cot when he woke a second time on occasion. I think you need to try and teach the baby (and I think 15 months is still a baby in many ways) to self settle at night. Have you read any book on a baby's sleep patterns and how we all cycle between light and deep sleep and babies do it slightly differently - so if they surface and feel something is wrong without being ale to self settle you have the battle you describe. Only feeding will do in your baby's case, but not because he needs food just the sensation of feeding/comfort. Could you try it all out in the day perhaps, getting him to nap without feeding him to sleep (perhaps you do that already) I used to feed my 15 month olds a least 4 times a day (breastfeed) as well as solid food and that did seem to mean I felt more reassured that night feeds were not so important. I think it is a psychological bond that affects our ability to let them cry; the more you feed them in the day (breast I mean) the less there is feeling you are depriving them by weaning at night.
If all else fails is there a chance you could go and sleep somewhere else one weekend over night or two (come back in the daytime to see baby) and organise with your husband that he will deal with night for your sake (it really might only take two nights) Imagine if you were hospitalised and baby could not be with you - what a terrible shock it might be in that situation for your baby to be suddenly left; you are doing it for him to get him used to sleeping securely through and as you say it is not good for him to have such a disturbed night or such a very very tired mother. 
There is a book by Ferber which explains a lot of sleep patterns in small children cannot now remember the name.
I still maintain you need to get at least two good nights sleep in yourself first though before you try anything!! Sleep deprivation is not good.
You may have a much clearer head once you've had some rest yourself.
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