need some CC hand holding.

(58 Posts)
BeebiesQueen Fri 25-Jan-13 17:46:17

I've had a thread in chat earlier incase any of this seems familiar to anyone!

dd2 is 12 months in 2 weeks. She cant fall asleep by herself. So I'm having to get tough, and its hard! I've decided after trying diffrent things that cc is the way to go, i'm not after a fight or a debate on teh rights and wrongs, I just need support from anyone who can offer.

So her first nap of the day she cried (its not sad, distressed crying its angry cry iykwim) for 2.5 hours before it was time for her bottle so I got her up, gave her bottle, gave lunch, had a little play then it was time for her afternoon nap. She cried for 2 hours 15 minutes until it was time for her afternoon bottle and if she had fallen asleep at that point she would have missed dinner and not been tired at bed time which would mess up dd1's routine.

now here we are, she was so tired at dinner, I decided to put her to bed at 5.30, getting her ready for bed she kept closing her eyes and trying to fall asleep.

I put her in her cot and here we are again big angry screams and lots of 'urgh, urgh, urgh' (up, up, up) I'm goin gin every 10-15 minutes depending on how much shes shouting. each time I lie her down, she settles, closes her eyes, I walk away and she screams again. (ive tried staying by herside and patting her, it was taking over an hour some nights to get her to sleep, which isnt practical with dd1 (who is only 15 months older) around

That was a long explanation blush if any one around is doing the same tonight or can hold my hand to get through this, please join me.

thankfully dh will be home at 6.30 to take over so I can go out and have a break (in other words go and do the weekly shop!) so I just have to survive another 45 minutes, then however long it takes to settle, but I really do think we are in for the long hall tonight sad

BeebiesQueen Fri 25-Jan-13 18:03:13

anyone?

knottyhair Sat 26-Jan-13 08:01:00

Hi Beebies. Didn't want you to go unanswered. Hope you got through the night OK. Just to say we had to do this with DS 8 years ago, and it's bloody hard! It worked though, I think it took around 4 nights to show an improvement, and I remember sitting on the stairs crying whilst DP held my hand! As I say, it did work though, keep going. DS slept like a dream after about a week or ten days (improved after about 4 though) and still does. Now I have DD currently 6 weeks old, and am hoping I won't have to do it with her when the time comes, but I will if I have to! Good luck xx

BeebiesQueen Sat 26-Jan-13 08:08:21

We had the best nights sleep we've ever had last night. It took a while to get her to sleep, but by 8.30 she was fast asleep.

I will keep going, shes quite clingy and tired today I just need to push through!

Its for her own good and my sanity

knottyhair Sat 26-Jan-13 12:29:38

Great news smile! Keep at it, it's worth it in the end.

AnyaKnowIt Sat 26-Jan-13 12:33:03

Great news, the first night is the hardest

Will be able to hand hold if you need it again

BeebiesQueen Sat 26-Jan-13 15:56:49

she just will not give in today! I am shocked by her stubbornness!

She can barely keep her eyes open she is so tired, she closed her eyes on the sofa, closed her eyes when I cuddled her, yet I put her in her cot and she stood and shouted for another 2 hours.

I've had to put her back to bed as she is that tired and yet again she is standing and shouting.

Time to get her up and get her ready for bed, with out letting her fall asleep. I will win! I will not break first!

AnyaKnowIt Sat 26-Jan-13 18:24:48

Oh dear, my dd use to scratch her face and poke her eyes to keep herself awake hmm

Good luck!

BeebiesQueen Sun 27-Jan-13 09:47:39

last night it took 1.5 hours fort her to fall asleep! but when I went up to check on her she had pood. So had to change her and it took another 1.5 hours, so again 3 in total.

We are perservering today, and I will noit give up. Just need her to give in and sleep during the day!

You will get there, you will. Don't give up now!

BeebiesQueen Sun 27-Jan-13 11:16:25

Ist nap of the day is almost over and she hasnt slept! I'm counting down till 11.30 so I can get her up and not have to listen to her shouting any more!

Then at 1pm we will start again. I'm hopefull that thisafternoon will be the day she falls asleep!

But after 2 days I am not giving up! I will not back down. She does fall asleep at night, so I know she can do it!

knottyhair Sun 27-Jan-13 17:56:13

Keep going, it's bloody hard, but it will work if you're persistent & consistent!

timidviper Sun 27-Jan-13 18:00:45

Keep going OP. We did this with DS when he was 15 months old and had never slept through a night (he is now 25 so it is quite a while ago). It took a while but suddenly clicked and he has been able to sleep on a washing line ever since!

AnyaKnowIt Sun 27-Jan-13 19:12:57

Another one here to say keep going

BeebiesQueen Sun 27-Jan-13 19:22:44

well she stopped crying in 1.5 hours today! however I just checked on her and unbelievably she is still awake! she is just sat in her cot, awake, staring into space!

It wouldnt be such a problem if she didnt share with dd1. So I've just sone somne quick bed movement and now dd1's bed is in the little room (currently over flowing wiht boxes due to house move in a couple of weeks, but it will do for now!)

So in 10 minutes as she has gone quiet again, I will put dd1 to bed and that will mean dd2 can fall asleep at some point and I can stop clock watching and worrying about getting dd1 to bed!

I am not giving up, 3 days of feeling like a crap parent and having an exausted baby all day will not be in vain! I will win this one, she will sleep!

breadandhoney Sun 27-Jan-13 19:35:42

Admiring your perseverance! Keep going! I've been there. We did it with dd1 at 6 months as nights had become horrendous. Hoping not to have to do it with dd2 who is now 7 weeks but as a pp said we will if we had to as it completely changed our lives! Cheering for you and hoping you get it cracked very soon.

BeebiesQueen Mon 28-Jan-13 10:57:34

day 4 and she is accepting that she needs to sleep in the day! her shouts are getting much longer and in the 2 hours I have been up just twice. I'm meant to be getting her up at 11 for her bottle, but as I think she is almost asleep I'll leave her till 11.30, if not asleep it will be bottle, lunch a little play and nap time at 1!

I am going to stick this one out, I am not getting 4 days into it to give up. 7 days and if nothing has changed I may think about changing tactics. I can do this!

BeebiesQueen Mon 28-Jan-13 21:37:04

After 2.5 hours this evening she finally led down and went to sleep grin she fell asleep by herself! I'm elated. Hopefully tomorrow she will go to sleep quicker!

Iggly Mon 28-Jan-13 21:40:33

Blimey you're hardcore. I know you didn't want a debate but you let your baby cry for hours and hours and hours.

Well done you.

Iggly Mon 28-Jan-13 21:41:18

I will add I have a 13 month old and 3.4 year old who weren't great at sleeping but got there without cc.

Iggly Mon 28-Jan-13 21:43:00

Although you're not doing CC you're doing CIO which is horrid.

Erm, no, OP has been going in every 10-15 minutes. That's not the same thing at all.

You could try shorter periods of time - rather than 10-15 mins as I think the resettling and reassuring is more important than the period of crying and getting worked up. We only did night time, not nap time and started with 2 min and worked up by 1 min each time.

2.5 hours on the 4th night sounds like a really long time - most people who have success with CC seem to have it quicker than that and it is resolved within a week.

If you add the 2 hours earlier to the 2.5 hours at night time, you are leaving her to shout for 4.5 hours which is a really long time. You can't seriously believe that many people will "hold your hand" while you leave your DD to cry for that many hours in a day?

Yes possibly about shorter periods of time, but if the OP stops CC altogether now it will have been wasted, pointless crying, and her DD will just have learned to keep crying. Crueller in the long run if you ask me.

breadandhoney Tue 29-Jan-13 02:38:21

I agree with IHeartkingthistle. Can't give up now or the past 4 days have been for nothing. I'm shocked at the stubbornness of this little girl but would hope it will all click suddenly into place.

Question though OP. you sound surprised that your dd fell asleep by herself tonight. Isn't that what has been happening every night, eventually? Or hZve you given in? If you are inconsistent and giving mixed messages I agree it's cruel.

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