MUMSNET a serious and I think important suggestion

[ImGideonsMumAndIHateHimToo]

After a week of allsorts and watching a DV escapee being torn apart for her benefits elsewhere, I would like a safe support zone which is the posting opposite of AIBU where people can ask questions when really vulnerable and scared and not get ripped apart.

I recognise a lot of points amde by people are valid but there is AIBU and politics for that, that system isn;t working though.

I think it could be invaluable as ATM MN has lost teh support aspect it had when I joined 320 yaers ago.

Thanks.

320 years ago? Respect.

Is this not the sort of thing that's meant for the Off The Beaten Track topic?

i never go to the beaten track....it seems to be dominated by silly threads and the shiney threads

off The Beaten is a bit obscure

I would rather it were like SN in that it had a tick box and when you tick it you see it but you agree to play fair

That's why SN acquired it and it seems to work.

Sooner or later someone in a DV relationship will be scared off and placed at risk, or someone with MH pushed too far. I know it sounds dramatic but it's clearly possiible. Think of the widow's thread. I lost some good MN mates there.

Stewie, did that really happen? That's disgusting.

I think the Relationships topic is too much of a catch all tbh. Back when I suggested a Friday Night Topic, I wanted to separate the bumsex threads and where to buy lube threads from the serious threads about divorce, affairs, dv, marital issues etc. It always seemed so crass.

Pets diversified into specific furry creature areas. Relationships would benefit from being divided up a bit too.

I'm still with you on the FNT, SOBS. In case MN cares.

That is probably my record for acronym density in one post.

I remember the rape one [sad[. Appalling.

When I ran family groups we could be asked by our famillies to just listen without criticising / making suggestions: people would often start there and as they gained confidence progress into the areas of dealing with it in their own time.

Agreed. A safe place would be great.

And Off The Beaten Track is so far off the beaten track I can never find it.

Maybe there could be 'Relationships' and 'Sex'. The two don't necessarily go together IME

I think you are right, IGM. For some people MN is all they have.

Tortures- I am proper MN old skool but I didn;t understand that PMSL

Thanks Stewie

I got upset about the carers bashing (it was straight after I posted we were scared as we thought we were going to lose £6k in benefit revciew so people knew I was vulnerable) and spoke to MN so they know it is happening.

And which post SGM?

"poor woman who was raped by her husband and told to suck it up in the relationships section." [hshock]
OP - sounds like a good idea.

Have posted this on TTR (SN support thing) and my facebook as well to see what others think.

Yes, a Please Be Gentle topic would be a good idea. And maybe breaking the Relationships topic down a bit, too. Perhaps "Relationships - Good" and "Relationships - Not So Good" .

But I don't like the idea of having a Sex topic. I think that would attract the Wrong Sort of People.

Nah I got that SGM LOL- I mean which of your posts is gone?

I would just call it safe zone

But frankly I would gladly hand the naming to anyone to see it happen.

I agree. "safe zone".

I've got a 'safe zone' already called FB. I don't know what's happened to MN recently. Over the seven years I've been a MNer, I've seen many changes but this?