Am a long-time MNetter - changed for obvious reasons.
Have been happily married for years and years.
DH stopped smoking a month ago and has seemingly had a personality transplant.
we are hideously linked in terms of when he gets a bit down, I get a bit down and vice versa....But this is like nothing I have exoeriencde before.
He broke down crying the other night for no reason.
he is constantly criticising the children, shouting, exploding...being sarky, snappy...
We 'celebrated;' a milestone anniverary last week - it was awful. I got a bit upset bec\ue I felt a bit taken for granted and like he has forgotton who I am. I think I had unrealistic expectations and was disappointed, But he reacted against my low mood and was vile.
I tried to arange a nice meal out, which he carped about and totally wrong footed me.
He is drinking too much.
I sggested we go away for the weekend this weekend to mark our anniversary. I thought we had a nice time, but all the way home he was surly and snappy. He said his head hurt. He had to pull over at one point.
He came home, drank 2 glasses of wine, watched the footy, then stormed out of the house without telling me and sat int he garden alone for over an hour. I didn't know where he was for ages.
He then came in the house as if nothing had happened, while I put everything away, and then sparked out asleep on the bed. He is still asleep.
I want to tell him how changeable he is. how hard it is for me and the boys to work out what mood he is in. How he makes us all feel when he rejects the boys (one son is 12 and I am scaed dh is driving him away ) How hard is is for me to try and make everything ok all the time.
I m so tired and scared.
We had a terrible year last year and then things improved dramatically. It's almost like we srvived the earthquake but have been knocked to our feet by the aftershock.
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Is it me? Is it him? Fed up of walking on eggshells.But worried about him too.
dotterel · 27/06/2010 19:43
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