He is going away for 4 days next week and asked me this morning if I was going to ask either my mum or his mum over to help (we've 3 children, 6, 3 & 13 weeks) - I said I didn't think I needed any help as I would be able to cope. He then replied "oh but you're so not coping, I work my arse off when I get in from work!"
I was a bit speechless! He does help out, he is a hands on dad but I had no idea he felt caring for his children was "working his arse off"
Our house is far from a show house, it is lived in but clean, reasonably clutter free. I cook meals every night for the children and DH and I.
I tend to put the children in the bath, he comes home from work and will finish the bath while I sort out the baby. DS is going through a daddy stage at the moment so he tends to do his bedtime while I sit downstairs with DD1 listen to her read while I breast feed DD2. I do bedtime with DD1 and DD2 and then come back down and do supper for DH and I.
In the morning he gets up first while I breastfeed DD2 in bed. When I come down he's normally made coffee, got bowls out for the older children and fed the cat.
Not quite seeing where the "working my arse off" is tbh! Or am I being unreasonable. We have 3 children I think he should expect to do somethings with his children when he gets home from work shouldn't he? Feeling really about his whole attitude!
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DH announced this morning he doesn't think I am coping!
domesticallychallenged · 11/05/2009 09:40
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