pls cheer me up and tell me who's got the worst mil

[fernzmal]

been going through a paricularly bad patch recently, everything's just been piling up on top of me (this isn't my usual name for posting). The problem is the mil, have never got on well with her but recently she has made me depressed she caused me to have pre-natal depression while pg a few years ago, i was suicidal and i was suicidal again due to her last weekend, quite badly that i had to have friends over to make sure i didn't do anything. (dh was away). dont really want to go into it but to make a long story short, i have a selfish, ruthless, conniving, scheming witch for a mil.she thinks she has the god-given right to control everything and evrybody and nothing will stand in her way. and dh is a piece of chicken shit who is too scared to say anything. i've accepted that i can't really do much. but i have decided to try to sever the ties between her and me and my child. i am going to do my bloody best to prevent her from ever seeing my child again if i can jolly well help it.altho that may be difficult as dh doesnt even seem to understand.
recent events have made me realise that she may try to take my child away if i am not around despite her not really giving a toss about my child's welfare, so can anyone tell me if i can legally draw up a will that prevents any contact between her and my child if i die? even if dh is alive? she is a bad influence on my child.

having said all of that, can anyone pls cheer me up and tell me your worst mil stories? i really need it right now.thanks

[Freckle]

I'm sorry to say this, but, if you have a mil who can cause you to become suicidal and a dh who can't or won't understand and do anything about it, for your own safety and that of your child, you would be better off away from both of them.

[starshaker]

my mil is a nightmare she expects me to run after her and take dd to see her when none of dps family make an effort to come see us. i know its petty but it would be nice if they said they would come along its only half a mile away ffs. she also slags of dp to any1 who will listen and i dont want dd growing up around some1 slagging of her daddy. shes only a week old but mil has always been like this from the first time i met her and i dont think its likely that she will change

[Janos]

Sounds like there is a lot of history with your mil fernzmal. Has she always been like this? Do you want to talk about it?

Don't have any mil stories of my own but thought you might need to vent - sounds like you're under a lor of stress.

[Hermione1]

Any consilation my mil we haven't seen for over 3 years and when we do hear from her, she makes it out as our fault and we have no interest in her. It's a long story really. She never comes to see us, it's always us going there, i went from kent to suffolk once with a 9 month baby and 3 month pregnant with bags pushchairs etc etc, just so we could see her, she never came to us, and obviously wouuld be easier for her than me. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR, she drives me mad.

[fernzmal]

Janos, she's always been like this, but it seems to have gotten worse in the past 3-4 years or so.she is always hatching plans and trying to undermine me in any way that she can.
i really do need to vent but i have been in this situation too many times to know that even venting won't change matters. :-(

hermione what is it with mils and expecting us to go through hail and high water to go and see them like they are royalty. pisses me off.

[Hermione1]

I know i know. annoying isn't it!! Thats why we haven't seen her in 3 years, i gave up along time ago, and couldn't care less what she thinks of me now.

[Janos]

fernzmal - I'm very concerned that this woman is mking you feel suicidal - and more than once - that's just horrible for you. Whatever she's done must be pretty bl**dy awful.

[Janos]

Sounds like you would be better off without her in your life from what you are saying. Is there any chance of this happening?

[fernzmal]

thanks janos. altho i don't know if i am the one being irrational.
i know my dh would probably say so. he is blissfully unaware as my suicidal tendencies have always kicked in when he happens to be away. and i feel that if told him, he'd think i was attention-seeking.
but i have to say that many people in society who happen to know my mil do not think too fondly of her. she is incredibly manipulative and uses people for her own selfish purposes.but she actually seems to think that she is right to do so, and she doesn't think she is doing anyone any harm. she must be stupid.

[sparklymieow]

me, me, me...... have many stories about the evil one... some people here are excitely awaiting my rundown of BIL's wedding in June.... and it will be one to remember!! I can see a fight brewing already and its hasn't happened yet

[fernzmal]

janos, this week, when i felt suicidal, i suddenly felt like a lightbulb had switched on in my head and i suddenyl realised without a doubt that i needed to cut her out of my and my child's life come what may. i have told anybody that would listen about this just so that they can remind me in case i feel a moment's weakness.
however i know that dh will never agree or udnerstand and it will be almost impossible to do seeing as she is such a wilful and demanding person.
i have thought of all sorts of ways to cut her out of my life, but i can always imagine dh coming up with alternatives to make sure we remain firmly in.i suspect he is also afraid of losing out on inheritance altho i am fairly confident we will barely get a penny, as we are not her preferred heirs (IYKWIM). and what do i say when she wants to see or babysit her grandchild?i mean, she couldnt give a donkey's if i just keep saying i'm too busy with work to come down and visit her but what excuse do i give with regards to my child?
any ideas?

[emmatmg]

I could sit here and list a whole load of stuff about my MIL but it's littered all over this site so won't waste my energy on such a worthless, spitful, evil, uncaring woman.

I feel the same fernzmal, and I dread the thought of something happening to me and MIL getting her claws into MY children. I would love to know if there is anything I can do to prevent her from seeing them if I'm not around.

[fernzmal]

cant wait sparklymieow

[sparklymieow]

have yopu had a name change, fernzmal??

[fernzmal]

does anyone know re:will?

[Janos]

You certainly don't sound irrational to me - she sounds like a complete bitch, and this is coming from soneone who doesn't know her from Adam.

[fernzmal]

er yes, i have,sparkly

[sparklymieow]

who r u?? Or is it a secret and I'll have to guess...

[fernzmal]

thanks janos

[emmatmg]

Just read you last post frnzmal........we seem to have the same MIL as I positive Dh will be cut out of any inheritance if he stay with me. A "little bird" recently told me she's worried about our future meaning just that, DH will get nothing.

[fernzmal]

er, of course it's a secret sparkly!!

[emmatmg]

Sorry, so many typos.......

[sparklymieow]

ok, I'm just nosy and can't work out who you are, but I'm guessing we have chatted before..

[fernzmal]

sigh emmatmg, altho at this point, i really dont want anything to do with her or her bloody precious money anyway, do you know what i mean? i dont want to owe her any favours as she''' just throw em back into my face and wont let me forget. she can go to h*. ((huggs))

[sparklymieow]

just seen the little 'this isn't my usual name' bit, whoops sorry... must learn to read things fully.....