Hi
I was just wondering what other people would do in this situation. I've been very upset, my DH and I practically never argue and this has caused rather a rift. I feel bad about my own behaviour but also angry.
Basically, an old friend of DH's came to stay for the weekend. I had not met him before. I was hospitable, made everything nice, I took him out to dinner on Friday night (he did not even offer to pay but I disregarded that). On Saturday it was nice and warm, the three of us had a barbeque and we all had a few drinks. We were all talking and this man then starts to freely express totally unacceptable and extremely bigoted opinions (rememember this man does not know me at all, or what my views on anything might be). I am afaid I got angry with him and told him that I found what he was saying unacceptable. I was probably pretty rude. I wasn't drunk but had had a few and was a little disinhibited.
DH was furious with me that I could be so rude to a guest in our home. I am embarrassed to admit that I then got angry with DH too and we had an argument in front of this man.
They went out to the pub while we all cooled down, I joined them later and we did not refer to it again until after the man left the next day. DH then told me he was really pissed off with me.
I agreed that arguing with DH in front of company (and some really nasty things I said too) was out of line, and I have apologised profusely for that. I feel terribly embarrassed about it. But I don't want to apologise for being angry about the conmvresation and standing up for my views.
What do other people think? What would you have done?
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unacceptable views of DH's friend
Nicola63 · 08/08/2007 20:35
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