This is in some way related to the flirting thread, but is something I feel quite concerned about and would appreciate any advice, esp from the bloke's perspective (SH?).
I have not posted this under my usual Mumsnet chat name, possibly because it is something I feel quite embarrassed about. I know a lot of people use chat rooms (myself included, obviously)and I have recently discovered that my d.h. has been using the internet porn sites - not just the obvious naughty pictures/ stories etc. which I have no objection to, but to chat with real people over the net. I discovered that he was either answering or posting ads on one of the 'personals' sites and it was obvious that the conversation was purely sexual.
At first, I was very shocked, though maybe I am a bit naive. Our sex life is okay - it wouldn't make national headlines, but then we have a couple of kids , one still a baby, and have been together a long time, so its understandable that things taper off a bit. Do other mums feel that this is acceptable in a marriage? I'm almost certain d.h. has not met up with any of these contacts: maybe it was just a bit of fun after a bit too much to drink one night? Or maybe this is something which men see as acceptable these days. I have asked him in a roundabout way whether he has ever/would engage in this kind of 'cyber relationship' and he said no, so I don' feel I can really ask again, esp as the only way I know in the first place is because I read his e.mail, which I know was wrong and a bit like reading someone's diary.
What do you all think? At first. I was really hurt and felt betrayed, but now (this was quite a few months ago), I feel I may have overreacted, esp. as I don't think he has actually been physically unfaithful since we met over 10 yrs ago.
Any opinions? Where doos one draw the line between a bit of harmless flirty chat and infidelity?
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Yet another sex question.
confusedmum · 01/07/2002 12:15
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