Not sure why I am posting, but want to let this out.
I am married to a wonderful man, he adores me, & I also adore him. We have beautiful children & are, on the whole, a very happy couple. We rarely argue & never really bicker about mundane things.
So why, all of a sudden, have I found myself covetting my sisters husband?
He is kind, loving, but he has a manly nature, wheras my dh is gentle & hates confrontation.
BIL & I have the same type of personalities, we are both home bodies, both enjoy listening to the same radio shows & reading the same kind of books, which always means we have lots to talk about. my sister is out every night of the week and often leaves her children here, meaning I make BIL his dinner and he spends the evening here. I enjoy his company.
I would never, ever in a million years contemplate ever having an affair, or even telling BIL I have a schoolgirl crush on him. I have been married twelve years and my sister and BIL have been married for 16years.
I guess I just enjoy his company, We flirt, we text each other if we heard things on the radio, we call the stations and get songs played for each other. funny songs or our favourite band of the moment, nothing romantic. I seriously dont see him in a romantic way. Yet I get all giggly when I think of him.
we were out on Friday night and we chatted for ages. we had a real laugh. I just wish my husband had some of the qualities, even though I cant stress enough how much I love my husband.
Sorry this is so long. And I dont even know if I want/need advice. It just feels good to write it and try to stop feeling guilty for something that hasnt and never will happen. further more I dont want it to happen but I dont want to stop contact with a man who share my interests. my husband and my sister go to classes together and are close too, we just are a close family, and I would be devastated if I thought my husband fancied my sister or vice versa.
Talk sense into me maybe???
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Think I fancy my BIL & feel so guilty
attentionseeker · 09/04/2007 22:06
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