Last time I posted on here I was a very frightened soul as I had been dealing with threats and abuse from H after I threw him out a few months ago after discovering another infidelity. I even asked to have a thread I started deleted by MNHQ as I was so terrified someone in his family might see and tell him.
Well I tell you what, I couldnt give a fuck now. This emotionally abusive, socially inept, lying, disgusting toad of a man continues to blame me for every one of his misdemeanours. I lost my temper at him tonight because he lied about taking something from this house when he left, that didnt belong to him. His response? "I hope your parents die. Stop being such a petulant c*nt in front of our daughter"
Unfortunately, our dd5 tells me she loves daddy more than me, and gets upset when she has to come home from his house. Its like a knife through my heart but what can I say to her? I just say "oh do you" in a sort of nonchalant manner. I think she feels sorry for him because he doesnt live with us anymore. And prefers him because he is a bit of a Disney Dad.
I just dont know how to cope with the stress when I know he is due to pick up/drop dd off. He has a passive aggressive way about him on the doorstep and if dd gets upset and doesnt want to leave him he turns it into a big sentimental display rather than encouraging her into the house and telling her he will see her soon.
He has her overnight twice a week and an extra odd tea time here and there. Once I had to tell him that he would have to pick dd up a few hours later than usual as I was working late and she was with my mum (he hates her because she had the balls to stand up to him once), and I avoid them having contact. He want mad telling me I had stolen time with his daughter from him. The next morning on my doormat was his letter from my solicitor outlining the contact arrangements, ripped up, in an envelope covered in expletives about me and my parents. His own parents dont know the half of what he is about, offered me no support when I threw him out and effectively condone his behaviour.
Im so sorry this reads like a garbled rant - I just want to know - do I just ignore his abuse until he gets bored? I have told my solicitor all about him but really what course of action can you really take about a man who who acts like a spoilt toddler? Its the fact that he has wished death on my parents - twice - that I feel I need some kind of action taken about but still, what on earth can be done about that.
I asked him to ask his parents to do pick ups/drop offs instead but he said "why on earth should they give in to my demands" .....
I just feel so defeated and truthfully, frightened that he will turn my daughter against me.
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How the hell do I deal with my husband?
Teepish · 05/11/2016 21:44
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