This is very very long winded but I need some advise, I am not here to be judged either, so please bare this in mind.
I'm mid 30s he's mid 40's. I've 1 child, he's 2.
We met 20 months ago. He was going through a divorce and I was in an unhappy marriage. We had a sexual affair for nearly a year. we supported each other, me through his divorce and he through my decision to split with hubby. 3 months after his divorce he decided to try again with his ex. as closure/sink or swim/for the kids thing I think. Anyway, I was OK with this at the time as I had my own problems, I could see he was hurting and reluctantly backed off, so our last sexual contact was 8 months ago. We have remained in contact ever since. with periods of no contact, occasional texts as friends, meet occasionally at work too.
This weekend we spent 3 days solid together with a mutual friend for work. Prior he said he was looking forward to it and it included lots of flirting, eye contact, ending with a hug (he doesn't do hugs) before we went home. He knows I have split with my hubby and when I asked how he was in his relationship with his ex he replied "ok, its ok, its not perfect but its ok", we chatted about general stuff too and tbh I felt this 3rd party did acknowledge and felt a gooseberry on occasions.
Monday I texted him to say how I enjoyed the weekend and esp. our time together. I got no reply, but I know in a week or so we will meet again. What' s going on with him and his mind?
Obviously I would like something more and deep down I feel he does too but something somewhere is stopping him.....how do I play this, he knows I love him and I want more and he does love me.
Any suggestions?
Thanks
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