I bumped into my ex on the weekend when I was visiting the city I grew up in.
We broke up 11 years ago and it was not a clean and pleasant break-up. Since we broke up we've seen each other in person once (about nine years ago) and managed to be civil for the ten minutes we were waiting in the queue at a cafe.
He emailed me via LinkedIn about six years ago as I'd appeared on his page as 'Someone You Might Know' and he was just emailing to say Hi. I emailed back and then that was that.
Anyway, on Saturday I bumped into him and we went for a coffee. It was all very pleasant and we chatted for about an hour about life in general.
In the early hours of this morning (I was awake) I received a really nasty email from him. I suspect he was drunk because it's littered with spelling errors and just doesn't make sense in places. Basically he berated me for being a 'stuck up bitch' and told me he feels sorry for me because my life is small, boring and going nowhere. He said that I'd tried to make him feel small with my boasting about my 'perfect life' (I really don't have a perfect life and I really wasn't boasting) but it just made him sad at how much I've done 'everything right' and not pushed myself or had any experience of the world. He also told me I'd let myself go and I looked really bad for my age.
I went on to his FB account (we're not friends, it's public) and he'd put a status update at 1am about not needing any bitches or something. This morning, the status has disappeared.
I know I should just ignore the email. But I want to reply and tell him some home truths. I want to post it on FB tagging his mum (who's very feminist) in.
WWYD? I need to ignore it don't I?
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Really horrible email from ex
ThirdTurd · 12/10/2016 11:25
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