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Email spam box what does it mean

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Beachballl Mon 08-Aug-16 01:31:37

I have access to my dh email and him to mine purely by accident. Happened to look in his spam tonight to discover lots of messages regarding of the sexual nature, on even for a casual dating site. I tried to change the password on this but although the it had come to his email address it said. His email was not registered. I know this is relevant but can't work out what it is. He is working tonight so I can't challenge him . Any thoughts

Ouriana Mon 08-Aug-16 01:34:39

I get hundreds of these spam emails, even from dating sites I have never looked at or been on.

Its spam, it doesnt mean your husband has done anything wrong at all.

Charlesroi Mon 08-Aug-16 01:38:28

Oh dear. If I've understood this right you've clicked on a link in some spam and confirmed it's a real email address.

Have you got reason to think he's up to no good? Normally, if you've signed up for something it doesn't go to spam box.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Redglitter Mon 08-Aug-16 01:42:12

If it's in the spam box then you've probably nothing to worry about. You should see the stuff in mine confused

HerdsOfWilderbeest Mon 08-Aug-16 02:13:22

Don't worry - horrific stuff goes into my spam. Your computer works out it's crap and saves time by sending it to spam.

chipmonkey Mon 08-Aug-16 02:34:31

I get lots of stuff about penis enlargement and sexy Asian teens. I have never owned a penis or had any desire to consort with sexy Asian teens. I also get lots of emails telling me I missed my motivational appointment in Los Angeles.
Honestly, don't worry. If it's in the spam folder it's rarely legit and if he were clicking on the emails it probably wouldn't keep going into spam. Although you may have changed that for him now!

Rudymentary Mon 08-Aug-16 05:17:33

Is his email address his name?

I'm female but my previous surname was a male first name eg: Stuart. I used to receive loads of these! Since changing my name (and email add) I don't get them at all.

Spam targeting males

Beachballl Mon 08-Aug-16 09:35:59

His email is fairly general. Doesn't give too much indication of gender.
He has been spending a lot of time at work recently and challenged me on something that's what made me think there was something. Is there something going on

AnchorDownDeepBreath Mon 08-Aug-16 09:38:42

I have about 620 emails in my spam box from this weekend. Most are asking if I want to meet sexy singles/have my penis enlarged/marry a Russian bride/impress my friends with a Russian pride AND a penis enlargement/get a boob job for free in exchange for some sexy photos...

I have a very female name. And no penis. And I definitely don't belong to any websites about singles/penis enlargements/penises in general/brides/boob jobs.

Nothing to worry about from his spam folder. What did he challenge you on? That could be more concerning.

OhNoNotMyBaby Mon 08-Aug-16 09:39:27

Spam is garbage email automatically sent out by internet bots. It means nothing. He may once have clicked on a site - maybe accidentally, maybe not - and is now being inundated by these automated texts. Do NOT click on any links - you'll only get more garbage and possible a virus too.

This is not evidence of any potential wrongdoing on his part.

Sofabitch Mon 08-Aug-16 09:40:33

It's in spam for a reason.

Because it's spam

amusedbush Mon 08-Aug-16 11:45:12

I get dozens of emails for "sexy Russian singles" and generic viagra. Don't worry too much,

specialsubject Mon 08-Aug-16 11:46:52

I get the occasional bursts of these, I assure you that I'm not on any internet dating sites, don't go to porn sites (computers get social diseases from those too!) and have no need of viagra.

Perhaps try talking?

ladymarymoo Mon 08-Aug-16 11:51:10

I get these spam messages too. Mine seems to think that I am a man (I am not last time I checked).

Zuccarelli Mon 08-Aug-16 18:34:33

I also get loads of these! Lots of penis enlargement ones and asian babes etc. I'm also a woman so it would have to be one hell of a penis enlargement grin

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Beachballl Wed 10-Aug-16 23:34:07

NeedAScarf he questioned me on an incident that occurred when I was out one night with some friends of his, I was very drunk ( not a regulatory occursnce) and was talk to a guy ( I am naturally friendly) however these friends has told home I was flirting ! I have had a talk with him unfortunately he his quite busy with work at the moment.

Beachballl Wed 10-Aug-16 23:34:59

He had been there for part of the evening and had then to go home as he was working the next day

Beachballl Thu 11-Aug-16 22:36:43

After I asked him regarding these emails in his spam box they appear to have stopped, particularly the ones of a sexual nature. I'm curiously to know why that is
Anybody any idea ?

FunnyTummy Fri 12-Aug-16 10:26:34

I had to close down my email and start another one because of the amount of dodgy spam I would get. it was anything from offering threesomes, porn, and also weird stuff like confirming my job interview (I haven't applied for jobs for years). I think spam can be totally random and just annoying, rather than anything to worry about.

of course you will question it, but just remember that it could be totally and completely innocent.

Annabel11 Fri 12-Aug-16 10:32:13

Eh, seems to me you are making too big of a deal out of nothing important.

OutToGetYou Fri 12-Aug-16 10:44:11

You are conflating a few things and coming up with an incorrect analysis.

Maybe he's started deleting the spam? Spam just comes and goes.

You don't say what sort of spam it is. If it is, as outlined above, "hot babes for you" then it really is just general. I get it too and my email address is clearly female!
But if it's to dating sites then it's possible he has been on one at some time. I used to be, so got lots and lots of others contacting me. Even years later I still do. Loads are affiliated to each other so they share info and you do get spam from ones you've not ever signed up to.

But I don't think either of these, or him asking you about the flirting (though that on its own could be another issue) show that he is up to anything.

Balletgirlmum Fri 12-Aug-16 10:48:17

I get hundreds of these too. They stay in there for X amount of days then auto delete. It is possible to empty the entire spam box in one go. I try and remember to do that every so often.

You sound very untrusting.

DadWasHere Fri 12-Aug-16 10:55:04

I think spam can be totally random and just annoying, rather than anything to worry about.

Its random and annoying if you delete it, but clicking on it to investigate what it is and where it comes from is like licking refuse in the street to see what it tastes like. Spam makes computer consultants a lot of money exorcising the subsequently digital demon possessed PC... assuming they even can.

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