I found out in November and have only told my best friend. I wanted to share online and hopefully get advice from other women who have managed to get through awful situations and come out the other side smiling.
My husband was taking cocaine and alcohol, was watching alot of porn which escalated. He started visiting numerous escorts. He then wanted the gf experience so would meet with one escort - 26 years old - and was with her for 9 months. Unbeknown to me, when he was 'working away' he was meeting with her, taking her abroad on all of his business trips, spending our profits on her. (We own a business together). One day he took her to a lapdancing club, and whilst she went to the bathroom a lapdancer 'gave him his number'. He finished with the escort and started seeing the 22 year old Russian lapdancer. He spent thousands on her. His behaviour at home had became intolerable and I was trying to pluck up the courage to separate from him then (I didnt know about the girls). But when I discovered the affairs I just broke down. I couldnt work for 4 months and couldn't understand why this affected me so deeply. I have always been strong. I am so sad that I trusted him so implicitly with the accounts and with where he was and what he was doing. At first he blamed me for the affairs, he was still heavily drinking. He then slowly began to see what he had done, since April he hasn't drunk or taken any drugs. He confessed all of the above to me. He went to a therapist for a few months. At first I was devastated about the affairs, then it was the fact that they were all 20 years younger than me, then it was the money, now I just feel numb. I wanted to stay with him, we have been together 20 years and have 3 children and a business together. He was a good man and a good husband until 2 years ago. But now I have spent months tracing my lost self-esteem and feel I can separate, but it all just seems so hard to do. I have lost all joy from my life...I would really appreciate any stories you have to share x
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Husband cheated with young women, how to move on?
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