We're absolutely delighted that we're parents to a 6 month old baby girl...so as a little family we are happy. However I'm ever conscious of just how little time I spend with my partner alone...literally none. By the time he gets home from work I'm wrecked and have about 2 hours before I fall asleep, usually right after I put baby to bed. That 2 hours is spent, with baby, frantically preparing food, answering the constantly ringing phone, dealing with baby/shopping/housework (just the real basics - we're not houseproud at all). At weekends there seems to be a constant barrage of visitors and grandparents, who want tea/chat/a tidy house as well as time with baby (none of them are "easy" in the sense that I can leave the baby with them for lengths of time, one set are elderly and the other lives several hours drive away and is so high-maintenance that it ends up not being particularly relaxing having her around). Even if they do babysit, and we get an hour (with them probably feeding her sweets) we can't be in the house so we go for a slightly stressed-out drink in our local or a walk. We can't very well say we're going to bed...if you catch my drift!! Plus, honestly, we're so tired even if we got 20 minutes to ourselves we'd be too exhausted for sex. I am studying full time and looking after baby, OH works full time and does extra shifts to make ends meet. How the hell do other parents find time for themselves? I love him, but I'm shattered, and feel that all our love and attention (both of us, he's just as bad) goes to the baby. Is this just 'it' now? How are second babies ever conceived?
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