I'm in a bit of a mess, I've been having a very tough time lately and mentioned some stuff to my GP, who looked horrified, and recommended counselling.
My family are, or at least appear to be very close. Family and friends comment on it all the time. How they wish they had the kind of relationship we have.
However. My Dad has always been pretty violent. I once woke up to him pinning my Mum to the wall by her throat. The worst argument I remember was when I was 9, he barricaded them both in the kitchen, I remember screaming for my sister to go and get our lovely next door neighbour to intervene, as I was terrified. He once tried to push me down the stairs. He once tried to push my Granny down the stairs. On Christmas Eve.
In honesty (and of course it's no excuse for the violence), my mum was pretty awful too. She used me as her sounding board. I got all the details as to how the much younger man she was having an affair with dumped her. Aged 12. I'm still getting that shite. There's quite a strong chance that, based on the number of affairs my Mum had, and when I was born, that my Dad isn't actually my Dad.
She used to rant and scream at me. Then weep on my shoulder, then rant some more depending on her mood. If I ever dared to be the voice of dissent, ever disagreed with her, she was hideous to me. I spent a lot of time hiding away from their angry outbursts.
I'm questioning everything right now. I thought I had a lovely childhood, but now I'm thinking that wasn't the case. My only stability was my lovely Granda, who is now dead. So maybe that's why I'm questioning.
It was tough. Was it abusive though? I genuinely have no idea.
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Was this an abusive childhood?
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