Hey all;
So DP and I had a bit of an argument this morning; he said he was thinking about is having another child; that his getting old and all his friends are now having babies. I immediately got angry and said all sorts to him. But first let me give you a back story.
So DP and I had our first DS really young; I was 16 and he was 17. DS is now 6. I lived with DP since DS was 2; but because he was so unreasonable to live with and there was so many arguments; I left when DS was 4; now live with family and would not consider living with DP again until I see he has changed.
I had another unplanned pregnancy a few months ago and sadly decided to terminate: which I'm slowly coming to terms with; I remember when DP was with me in the clinic and said out loudly "you better get rid of it!"; "you better".
So this morning; DP was saying that he was getting broody and wanted another child yadayada, like I said above. I immediately got angry and said "well you had another one, but you didn't want it!"; and he was like yeah but that was a couple of months ago; I've changed my mind from then; I then proceeded to tell him that " I won't even consider having another child with him till he properly looks after the child he already has!". That " I buy DS clothes; his shoes; his therapy fees; I take him to school and back; I buy his food; you don't even do that; so why the hell would I consider having another child by you".
To be fair; DP has no job; well he has a weekend job but he doesn't get very much at all.
DP then replied that once he gets back on his feet; he currently has issues with housing; then he'll look after DS properly. I replied "No; it doesn't work like that; I had DS at 16 and my life wasn't really sorted out at all and it was a struggle; but I still juggled to do my GCSE's, A levels and degree while looking after DS and providing for him". I then continued that " loads of parents go through struggles but they still have to be responsible for their kids".
DP then proceeded to get angry and said " you don't want another child by me; I tried to be nice to you; I'm going to keep my options open and have a baby with someone else ".
So I now I feel really guilty; was AIBU?
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Was I unreasonable for telling DP that I didn't want another child by him?
Arielthemermaid285 · 13/06/2016 12:11
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