Hi. I have name changed for this as I don't want anyone I know to see it as it;s all just so embarrassing. I guess I'm posting because there is a lot of good advice on here, and I don't know what to believe anymore, and an outsider might be able to be more logical than me.
I got a message on facebook last year, it went to my "others" folder, so I didn't see it until a couple of months later.
It said: "You might want to check your partners emails and figure out why he is chasing other women as (username) especially since he has a kid with you. Cause if I catch him coming near my woman again he is in trouble."
the username is not one my partner uses (afaik) but is definitely one he would use if that makes sense? Its basically something he says about himself in a jokey way. Im trying not to out myself.
I couldnt reply to the message as the person had either blocked me, or deactivated their account.
Early in our relationship, my partner actually had sent messages to a woman, telling her all about a sex dream he had about her, and what he would like to do with her. This is why I didn't just assume it was nonsense. He is aware that I consider it cheating and that if he did it again it would be over.
When I found the message I called him at work, and asked him who (senders name) was. He said he didn't know, when I told him the message, he denied all knowledge, then said he was coming home to propose to me. This set my alarm bells ringing, as marriage is a sore topic in our house (something i want, he says he does, but never materialises).
Anyway he said he couldn't prove a negative, and I couldnt prove anything either. so I dropped it, but never really felt like he definitely hadnt done it.
I found the message by chance again this week while deleting messages, and for some reason decided to google the name (I hadn't before). The name is not hugely common. On 192.com there are 150 matches for it.
The first hit on google was a linkedin account, for someone with that name, who lives in our village, and went to his school. This person also is not on facebook.
I just feel like it is too much of a coincidence. I dont really know what to think :(
Sorry this was long.
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Don't kow if my partner has cheated.
StupidDoormat · 10/05/2016 17:39
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