Does anyone use a solicitor so they can have as little contact with ex as possible?
We were never married but since June 2014, he has bounced in and out of DS's life. Things came to a head last August and we attended mediation and had a contact arrangement set up....which he managed to stick to for 2 months. Since mid November, he has seen DS 2/3 times in total and has not requested regular contact.
Today, I get an email asking to see him Tuesday evenings. And here the merry go starts again. I'll agree to it, it will last a short period of time, then it will drop off.
I'm fed up of it, wondering when the other shoe will drop, when he decides he has time for his son again before dropping him. I'm fed up of sticking to everything we agree and him not. And most of all, I'm fed up with wondering how this irregular contact will impact DS in the future. Ex was also emotionally abusive and I've come to realise that him refusing to commit to regular contact is his way of still having a tiny bit of power over me.
TBH, I just want to tell him that any other contact arrangements need to be sent via a solicitor. I feel that he messes DS around to get to me and the third person may stop this as he will be dealing with them, not directly with me. I also feel he'll toe the line better with regards to arrangements if a solicitor is involved as he cares what people think of him (amazingly!)
Has anyone else used a solicitor to avoid contact with ex? Unfortunately there is no family on either side available to act as a mediator.
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Using solicitors for contact with ex
wonderstuff100 · 11/02/2016 18:44
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