Would like some opinions and advice with this situation...
My DH works full-time (demanding office job) I'm on mat leave. Our baby is 4months, still cries a lot and is only really happy when being held or in sling. So I have my hands full most of day.
DH is great with baby and helps a lot... but he likes to sleep in! Weekends he stays up until around 4am then sleeps in until noon. He doesn't see a problem with this, says he needs time to himself at night to relax, play PC games, watch films etc. My issue is I'm then on duty until around 1pm or later after yet another broken night (he needs an hour or so to wake up, have breakfast etc).
When baby was sleeping well this wasn't so bad but now we've hit sleep regression Baby sleeps around 11pm, often wakes at 2am, 5am and is up for day at 7am! So I'm shattered! I feel like my brain is full of fog and am resentful DH is still asleep when he CHOSE to stay up all night. I would love to have a lie-in occasionally but when I suggested he get up at 7am with baby sometimes (expressed milk in freezer) he thought I was joking
He said he needs time to himself in order to cope and is very protective of 'his' time. Apparently it's normal for mothers not to get much personal time the first year.
Actually I'm worried he's not coping well and maybe does 'need' this time. He seems sad and is drinking more, stopped exercising, is excessively worried about me and baby. He says if I were happier he would be too but I feel I'm only just keeping my head above water. Toying with idea of Sertraline (?PND) but worried I'll feel even more tired and fuzzy.
I feel I'm not being a good wife at the moment, house is always a mess, back-log of laundry, rarely manage to cook as he's home late so no-one to watch baby. Baby will sit in bouncer for approx 5mins before crying. So he gets home to ready-meals (or half-cooked/burnt meals because I have to stop cooking to comfort baby)! I know I'm often snappy and grumpy and must be hard to live with, I'm just so tired trying to keep afloat.
Is this normal? My friends think it is. Any tips for coping?
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