I've been friends with X since our daughters were at nursery together. Both girls are now 9/10 and in year 5 at school.
Over the past year or two the other girl has been unkind to my DD on lots of occasions; it is the usual low level stuff such as name calling, drawing on DDs work, glaring at DD. DD has been upset by it but I have spoken very discreetly to the teacher and luckily DD has a good core of friends so it's been ok but not nice.
I haven't mentioned it to my friend as she has a tendency to always think her DD is right and I thought it best to let the school deal with it.
About a month ago my friend started ignoring me and made it clear that she was not talking to me. On Tuesday she sent me a text saying that my DD has called her DD some names at school and it was quite an aggressive text, essentially saying that her DD is right and my DD deserves a good bollocking for it and that she wants nothing more to do with me until I've dealt with it. I replied saying I would certainly speak to DD as name calling isn't acceptable but that her DD has also said and done things to my DD and perhaps she could speak to her DD too.
She replied saying that what her DD does at school is not within her control as she's not there (and yet it's in my control??), and that my DD is in the wrong and I need to sort it out. Plus lots of other insulting stuff about me.
She is now blanking me at the school or just throwing me filthy looks. Which is crap enough as I hate tension but she has also filled in 4 mutual friends on it all and how upset she is, and two of them have tried to contact me to say how upset X is, and basically they think my DD is a nasty bullying thug!
I have been in tears today over it, I am hating the school run right now because of the looks I am getting. I spoke to my best friend about it today and she said that this woman is trying to bully me so it is no wonder her DD behaves as she does.
What do I do? Mutuals have clearly taken her side....
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So upset about this friend's behaviour and don't know what to do
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RacoonsRock · 26/11/2015 14:54
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