So my OH had an emotional affair with someone at work, all happened earlier this year, nothing physical happened and they apparently realised what they were doing and called it quits. Lovely. Stayed friends, still messages, borough each other the odd book, coffee etc, still Facebook friends... I found out by accident looking at old emails trying to sort out an iTunes mess up on our shared lap top. We have had lots of long discussions about what happened and why, essentially he felt under massive pressure at work and this was his escape. Have talked about why this might not actually be a good form of escape, had a couple of sessions of counselling from Relate on line, trying to work through things. But... Cannot get past this. She still works with him, still follows him on Facebook and Twitter... She is younger than me with only one child and a heap of childcare so has a social life and hobbies, and still runs the marathons I used to. I am 29 weeks pregnant with our fourth child. I no longer run marathons. And she is a psychologist who does some relationship work and is all over t'internet handing out advice to others... And posting trite quotes about letting go of your anger. Essentially I want us to work and to get back to where we once were, but I also have moments of wanting to rant at her on line about her hypocrisy... How exactly do I get past the rage stage?
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Emotional affair - trying to rebuild, need help!
BossyOfficerFlossie · 08/10/2015 00:52
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