Ok so this is a really difficult topic to post. I feel like my head is going to explode! I am married to a wonderful man for 12 years and two children . Problem is there has always been a niggling feeling that I just don't "fancy" him. We have gone through the mill with two children with disabilities and done lots to our house which is wonderful but I am just not happy. Not sure if it s that time of life or marriage - the intimacy for me is just not there - I just find sex with him not something I want. I plucked up the courage to tell him and it cut him up understandably. We are trying to work through it but I just don't know what to do. We are the couple that everyone says are suited which we are but not sure if it's more just as friends - I want to hug him I love him care for him but no urges of sex with him. I am having counselling next week something I never thought I would do but it s tearing us apart. I wonder if I have just switched off from our marriage and worry I will regret it totally. Not to mention the heartache for our children if we were to split it would totally devastate them and my husband and family. One thing he said to me was he still fancies me and wouldn't have married me if he hadn't. The problem is I did not fancy him ( I didn't tell him that) I loved him as a person and I think now things are more evident this is the case. I feel truly in turmoil. I worry I think that things will be better with someone else and they won't. I am 38 years old and worry for our children what it would do to them they adore their dad.
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