About a month ago, suddenly and completely out of the blue, DH disappeared. It wasn't quite that simple, in that a few months before he had said that he wasn't sure he loved me 'in that way' anymore, and that he had also developed Feelings for our housemate - a best friend who moved in after leaving the husband. SHe had moved out a few months ago, when I suddenly out 2 and 2 together, but it was to her house that he ran when he first disappeared, although he is now the Work colleagues.
I have been distraught for this month. I wouldn't answer his phone, responds to any texts, emails or whatever, and for long stretches I didn't know where he was.
I met him again today - I had Arranged a session at Relate as I hoped he might then feel 'safe' enbough to meet me. His insistent line was that it is over. No second goes, no working at it, just finished. I asked again and again, as trios I had no idea what anything was wrong, but he just says no.
He suggested that' I should move back to a town we lived in 7 years ago, where we have many friends and were so happy. I have just come from w few days there though - it is too full of memories to be somewhere I would manage.
We have no children, but a rented property, cat, joint account, credit card debts etv to separate. I just don't know where to begin - I still totally adore him, and I remember how lonely and afraid I was before we met, 16 years ago. I have no idea how to start again,
I cannot stop crying. I can't imagine life without my wonderful husband. How can it be that what I want is of no significance in this? How do I move away, lonely and alone, to try to start again, when I still feel what there is so much left in our marriage,f only my husband would let me work through it, rather than just running away?
Please help? I am in despair
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he's gone. Can one person just finish 16 years like this?
oxcat1 · 27/08/2015 07:44
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