Has anyone's mother ever threatened to 'reveal' things you apparently did as a child?
you see, I left home at 15/16 after nearly a decade of physical and emotional abuse from step dad where my mother let it happen. I was the only sibling to receive this kind of abuse and yes, she let it happen because there were countless times she could and should have done something. Even make me live with grandparents and she didn't. Anyway, Rape was threatened by step dad and that was the final straw for me(it was reported and dealt with terribly. I was accused of lying), not my mother however she had another kid with him! I left and cut contact until she did the right thing and divorced him.
Got back in contact a few years ago and now with my new partner my Mother, who I have been brutally honest with about growing up and how fucking awful it was, plans to tell my partner 'the truth'. Anyway, she is making threats to reveal things that happened when I was a child. Stealing for example. I stole food because I was hungry. OH knows this. Mother spent money on step-dads booze and cigs rather on much needed food. Along with countless other things I did. OH knows, understands and gets that at 16 I was still a child. As he put it 'I was still discovering my penis at that age'
so, my question isn't is this normal. I know its not. I know she is just as abusive and manipulative as my step dad and I am making every plan to cut contact with her ASAP.
But... has anyone else's parent in this situation threatened to tell a new partner 'what you are really like'?
Just trying to get my head around whether this is 'normal' of this type of self serving, selfish parent. I'm wondering if part of it is jealousy. I have a pretty damn good fella with his priorities right, financially stable, spoils me rotten but in the right ways (got to love a guy who buys you your own mini zombie hoard for your office) and gets on wonderfully with DC.
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mother threatening to tell OH 'what you are really like'?
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bettyberry · 30/07/2015 22:39
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