I could be in the wrong here, so I'm just asking you netmums, as I'll know you'll be honest.
In the early days of our separation 6 years ago of course my children's dad (ex husband) came to both my kids parties. I have met someone else and his children are the same age as mine so they are good friends and go to each other's parties. One year we had a bowling party for my son, my dp came along as well as his children, their dad came too it was really awkward and cringy but it was only a hour or so and we were all home again. Last year on my dd birthday it fell on his weekend to have them, she wanted her dad to sort a party to the cinema for her and I wasn't invited which was fine I did something with her when I had her back. This year her birthday falls on his weekend again but she wanted a BBQ here so my dp's kids could come so I said no problem you do something nice with your dad and we'll have a BBQ the weekend after, so she's invited a couple of friends this weekend we'll have a BBQ just me my dp his children (my son) and a few of her friends at my house.
Ex husband dropped them off Sunday and in front of them said what's happening Saturday what time shall I come? I was a bit gobsmacked tbh I didn't know what to say in front of the kids. He said he'll turn up at some point to see how going. I feel really uncomfortable, I know it's not about me and my dp but it's in my home I don't hate him but I don't want to stand and talk to him while it's just me and dp there. My dd is 12 she's not going to be hanging around him like she did at 4 she's going to be mingling with her friends.
What do people think about this, should he be coming to his dd party no matter what, or is he being a tad controlling and imposing a bit. I will just say myself and dp are buying a house together and moving in all together later on in the summer so ex husband maybe feeling a bit pushed out. I'm just annoyed he's invited himself?!!
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Do you invite your ex husband to your child's parties?
Thatslife72 · 15/06/2015 21:43
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