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someone you've been on a date with "have a nice day x", " thanks you too x" then nothing

(30 Posts)
pettywitchinlondon Mon 08-Jun-15 17:35:45

I don't get it, he wasn't asking any questions to start a conversation with just saying have a nice day. Then I reply the same and get nothing.

Anyone have an idea what he's thinking?

TummyButtonFluff Mon 08-Jun-15 17:54:08

Eh? He asked you and you replied? I, um, think he was thinking he hopes you have a nice day.

How did you leave things?

Hobby2014 Mon 08-Jun-15 17:55:47

I'd take it that the conversation is finished. I wouldn't be expecting anymore replies until the next conversation.

Jenoftheweek Mon 08-Jun-15 17:56:20

No. I don't get texting unless it's as a method of transmitting information.
If I wanted to connect with someone I'd call.
It seems almost as if you were a transient thought, momentarily there then suddenly poof and you've left his brain.

holdyourown Mon 08-Jun-15 17:58:47

how long ago was it? I'd say he was thinking hello have a nice day. ie just that he was thinking of you. You've said you too he's probably thought smile and moved on to whatever he's doing that day. Unless it was say, a fortnight ago with nothing since, I wouldn't question it at all tbh.

flowery Mon 08-Jun-15 18:08:17

I'm confused. He sent you a nice text to say have a nice day, and you replied in similar fashion. Unless that's code for something completely different I don't understand the puzzlement about what he's thinking. He's thinking he'd like you to have a nice day surely?

pettywitchinlondon Mon 08-Jun-15 18:11:06

It was a week ago. Well it's hardly a conversation, with wished me a nice day I did the same.

He obviously wanted to speak to me, but not have a conversation. I didn't get the point. I'd ask someone how their day was.

holdyourown Mon 08-Jun-15 20:35:59

Hmm. Depends. Was it a first date and was it OD? Did you DTD?

flowery Mon 08-Jun-15 20:49:24

I really think you're over-analysing here OP.

travertine Mon 08-Jun-15 21:09:09

Maybe he's thinking the same thing, he said have a nice day, you said you too. To me that would have been a brush off from you. Everyone thinks differently. Just text and say hi how are you? What have you been up to? I've been doing Xyz and see what happens?

pettywitchinlondon Tue 09-Jun-15 06:36:01

It was a first date and online dating.

No didn't DTD.

Yes I'm worried I gave a brush off, however didn't feel I should ask questions if he just wished me well and didn't ask anything

niceupthedance Tue 09-Jun-15 07:14:21

Was that the only message after the date? Bit odd. Sounds like he meant to keep in touch with you then forgot/moved on.

pettywitchinlondon Tue 09-Jun-15 07:26:47

We spoke a bit after the first date, he said nice to meet you etc then it went quiet until this have a good day. No idea what he's thinking

Pinklaydee1302 Tue 09-Jun-15 07:57:21

What I do is this: I'm an over analyse, especially if I like them I analyse every word and if I'd got that text Id think I'm gonna be no worse off so if just ask him straight 'hey you wanna meet up again or what?'

But then again I can't do with pissing about grin

YonicScrewdriver Tue 09-Jun-15 08:07:17

Maybe he was expecting a question back too "thanks I will - what are you up to ?"

pettywitchinlondon Tue 09-Jun-15 08:30:32

Ha your totally right pink!

Not sure I could take a no response at the moment, hoped he'd carry on chasing but he's just chasing a tiny little bit. Probably forgotten my name by now

HeresMyBrightIdea Tue 09-Jun-15 08:35:54

I agree with Yonic. You closed the conversation down. I'd have taken it that you didn't want to talk too.

pettywitchinlondon Tue 09-Jun-15 08:44:52

What should I of replied with? His wasn't exactly a conversation starter

YonicScrewdriver Tue 09-Jun-15 08:46:24

Witch, there was nothing wrong with his text or your reply. But for you to make that reply then complain that he didn't ask any questions etc doesn't make sense.

YonicScrewdriver Tue 09-Jun-15 08:47:27

I put a suggested text "thanks, I will - what are you up to today?" Or something would have been low key.

pettywitchinlondon Tue 09-Jun-15 08:52:20

I just don't get what the point of him sending that qas, I sent the same back and end of conversation.

I wasn't going to ask him a question as on the date o did all the questions and he asked me virtually nothing. That did kinda piss me off so thought I would never hear from him again, but hes contacted since.

niceupthedance Tue 09-Jun-15 09:38:05

Sounds like he's a rubbish conversationalist. Probably not what you want in the long run?

pettywitchinlondon Tue 09-Jun-15 09:40:24

Well in some ways yes, but he talked about other people a lot, was quite witty in a dry booky way. Im just not sure if he didn't want to know more about me, or if its just not his style to ask questions.

YonicScrewdriver Tue 09-Jun-15 09:46:25

Because he thought of you and wanted to send a nice text?

Do you want to see him again?

Thenapoleonofcrime Tue 09-Jun-15 10:01:24

Is he eagerly texting you to find out when you can meet up again?

If the answer is no, he's not interested. He's texting to see if you are still around, if nothing better comes up he might date you again.

If he was dazzled by you and wanted to see you again, he would be putting that into action right now (given we know his phone works).

Nothing more to be said, really, I think if someone's not keen it's the biggest no-no in the book, and one measly 'have a nice day' after a week is not keen.

Sorry!

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