has any one got nice in-laws?

[Elasticwoman]

It's sad to hear of so many difficulties with in-laws. Mine have always been lovely to me even though they had only met me about 3 times before we announced plans to marry. They never gave me a hard time about making them wait 12 years to be grandparents either. I'm sure they have their faults like any one else, but not for nothing did my cousin say at our wedding "Wow, you really lucked out with your in-laws!"

Has any one else out there got nice in-laws?

[PrettyCandles]

Yes - my husband!

[PandaG]

Yes - mine are generally lovely. They treat me the same as their own daughter. They have their own way of doing things and can be a bot ste in them, but I really have nothing to complain about.

[BudaBeast]

Yes - me.

My MIL is actually my DH's step-mother - she marreid Dh's Dad when DH was 23. DH's Dad is now dead unfortunately.

But MIL and her family have totally adopted us. They are not perfect obv but compared to some of the stuff I read on here they are the Waltons!

MIL talks and talks and talks - even when you are in another room but I think it is a hang-up from living on her own. And otherwise she is lovely. She was a teacher (reception) for years and is fab with DS - very hands on and makes things with him etc. He loves her.

So - I am lucky.

Oh and we live in another country so don't have to see her too much which prob helps!!!

[PandaG]

translation - bit set !

[Tommy]

Mine are actually very nice - drive me mad a lot of the time but couldn't argue that they aren't nice

[southeastastra]

yes my mil is nearly 80 and babysits every week. she's is a fruit loop though!

[Olihan]

Mine are fantastic, better than my own mum. They do exactly what I ask of them with the dcs, are willing to have them whenever I need a break, ask me how I like things done, give the dcs all their time and energy when they are there, treat me as a daughter and have never once given me a reason to moan about them in 7 years. I constantly thank my lucky stars that I have them, especially when I read about so many of the horrendous stories on here.

[MerlinsBeard]

mine aren't m,y in laws yet so maybe i have to wait to hate them but they are lovely

[WriggleJiggle]

Mine are wonderful, they drive me absolutely mad from time to time, but I don't think they realise, and they would be horrified if they thought they had caused a problem or upset anyone.

[hoxtonchick]

mine are ace. they live about 20 minutes away, which is perfect. mil looks after dd once a week, & did the same with ds before he started school. they can be utterly relied upon in a crisis, lend us their 2nd home whenever we want & take us on holiday every year. and think i'm a very good influence on dp .

[chubbleigh]

Mine were lovely to me and thought I was great until I had the nerve to leave their golden boy, now they wouldn't piss on me if I was on fire, it is not totally their fault, he has told lots of lies to gain there sympathy. Moral of the story - blood really is thicker than water.

[expatinscotland]

Mine are FAB! I love them to bits. DD1 is so much like MIL, who's one of the loveliest, sweetest people around. DD2 is like MIL's beloved mother, her namesake.

I adore them both.

[snowleopard]

Mine are nice, though mad as spoons and can be annoying. I like them a lot - the main problem is they drive DP up the wall so much that being with them gets stressful after a couple of days.

[EggyBreadAndBeans]

Mine are nice, yes. Lovely. Fun and playful and loving with ds. But different to me in a way that unfortunately isn't complementary, as it can be with other friends/family.

MIL can be tactless, crap at listening/understanding, talks and talks without ever thinking first, always has a (probably unintentional) put-down at the ready with reference to my parenting, and thinks Golden Boy dp can do no wrong, when he and I know he can. So, yes they are fundamentally nice, sweet people, but I don't think that in itself is necessarily enough for the basis of a happy in-law relationship.

[sandcastles]

Mine are lovely. The first time I met the was when they came to the UK for our wedding (they live in Oz) I 'knew' them for about 5 weeks before I married into their family.

I "met" them an additional 4 times beore we emigrated to Oz and have been treated like part of the family. Treated no diff to dh's sister.

They respect the way we are bringing up dd & our privacy. They will do anything to help me & drive me anywhere I need to go. They are brilliant!

[eidsvold]

mine are fabulous. I met them when dh and I were already engaged. His mum especially has always been very lovely to me - even when i took her granddaughter no1 ( oh and dh) to Aus to live and then had dd2 - and now about to have no3. She thinks dh and I are fab parents - which is great cause we think we are pretty crap actually! SIL is lovely - just one of those all round lovely people. After horrid inlaws with exh - i really did win this time.

[missymoosal]

My inlaws are the best. Sadly my fil died last year and I miss him alot. My mil is a wonderful person in fact there have been times I wished she was my mum instead.
She is so helpful and kind, nothing is too much trouble for her I love her to bits

[foundintranslation]

My ILs have very, very different ideas, habits and values from me, and I don't find it easy being with them, but they are really genuinely nice people.

[Beelliesebub]

My mil has always been lovely to me but for some reason she really rubs dh and sil up the wrong way. There's only one instance that I can remember her being awkward to me and that was hearsay from sil . Apparently she was supposed to have said "My god, that woman can shop" Which on the whole isn't entirely untrue Dh reckons they should make it an olympic event....

[lemonaid]

Mine are great, generally. The only trouble is that they don't talk to each other and that various people will refuse to even be in the same building as certain other people which is a royal PITA at times, but apart from that I have no complaints.

[liath]

SIL is lovely. MIL is a nice enough person & has always been very generous. We have NOTHING in common, though and I find her very tedious company! The best Christmas day I've had recently was with all DH's family staying - nobody argued or fell out - it was great!!

[CorrieDale]

Mine are just great! Helpful with DS (who absolutely adores them, esp. grandpa!) but never interfering or critical. Absolutely brilliant, really. Am much envied by my friends, who haven't been quite so lucky.

[maltatheterrible]

Mine are great, MIL texts me every Wednesday to wish me "happy 26th week of pregnancy" etc etc. and tells me how well I'm looking. It's cute. Providing first grandchild is definitely helping my popularity, but they have been totally sweet over the last 10 years.

I am grateful they are 200 miles away though, as they are more obsessed with this baby than we are and I think that she might try and move in if she lived any closer!

[GoingQuietlyMad]

Mine are wonderful. There have been some strange moments, and if i wanted I could dredge up some tales.

But I realised that they are fundamentally very nice people, so I can accept the odd faux pas for what it is rather than taking it personally.

[hulababy]

Mine are great. Get on well with PILs and my BIL (and now his wife and their yummy baby). Also get on well with DH's other family. I treat his grandad as my own grandparent, and he has always seen me as a granddaughter TBH. Have known them all since I was 16, so have grown up with the around. Love them all lots, they are part of my fanmily definitely.

DH also gets on well with my family. On Boxing day we have both sets of parents and siblings round for lunch - all very social and everyone gets on, despite being all different.