Ok, so I am 39 and a single parent of three children. I haven't had a relationship since I was in my early thirties. Seriously, it's been so long I think if you gave me a naked man I wouldn't know which way up he went.
Recently, I got in contact with a man who lives in my community to ask him for a work related favour for a younger relative. I don't know this man very well at all - we've perhaps had a few short conversations over the past few years - but I guess I've always thought he was quite attractive. He is fairly recently separated (in the last year or so) but still has a seemingly very amicable relationship with his (ex)wife, whom I also know.
So the first proper one to one conversation we have is about this work favour but quickly moves on to other topics. I feel like we really click - we immediately have lots to talk about, seem to have lots in common, and the conversation becomes quite animated and enthusiastic. I think I get a sense of there being an attraction there.
Suddenly he says, "Oh you and me should really hook up!" And I don't respond as I feel taken aback (he means it in the sense of getting together, not the sexual sense, but still, it's been a while...) and then he immediately looks a little flustered and says, "You know, because um..." and then mentions something we have in common. It feels like he's just plucking it out of the air and it's a slightly awkward moment. I don't say yes or no (still feeling surprised) and we just kind of carry on talking. I promise to text with information about the work thing.
I do text the relevant info but don't hear back from him for a week (to be fair my text doesn't exactly warrant a reply.) This week is spent wondering whether he is interested in a friendship with me, or possibly more?
I heard back from him today (work related stuff but also something friendly with kisses at the end) and so sent a text back saying, "Oh if you do want to get together for a coffee or something, we could discuss the work thing some more over that, rather than texting back and forth? Let me know."
Haven't heard anything back yet. Have I just made a total twat of myself? Is he cringing worrying he's given me the wrong idea? But if he was just being friendly, then why ignore the text? What's the big deal? It could easily be just two mates going out to discuss something work related right?
Help me wise ones of mumsnet. It's been too long.
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It's been so long - please help me to figure this one out.
fishfingersinmysandwiches · 15/05/2015 20:21
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