In a couple of hours my BF is coming round after work and I want to ask him about our sexlife....
We've been together about 9 months. As usual, for the first several months, sex was great.
The relationship on the whole is fab, he's lovely and very kind and attentive. Just a really nice person and we have a lot of fun. I fancy him like mad! And when we're out and about and cuddling up and by the way he compliments me, I know he is very attracted to me.
He does have a few body issues and inhibitions and He has lost his erection a couple of times, which could cause some worries for him I know.
The thing with him is he has had a lot of work stress and a resulting period of insomnia so I don't want to pressure him for sex.
But the last few months it has been few and far between. He is in a better place now but sexy times show no sign of making a big comeback! I've been patient and tried to see if it would pick up again naturally.
I don't want to make a song and dance about it or make him feel defensive or emasculated but I want to let him know that for me this is an issue and I want to be able to talk about it.
IMO this is way too early to have a sparse sex life and the last few weeks I have been feeling like I am practically throwing myself at him only to get rejected. I've been in a long relationship with mismatched libidos before and I know it isn't for me.
I do want to see if there is something we can do about it though.
How do I start this as though I am not confronting him with a "problem" or blaming him?
I'd like it to be more of a conversation, but I can't think of anyway to say it other than..."can I ask you about something...why don't we have sexy very often?" Which just seems a bit rubbish.
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Diggingdolores · 13/05/2015 21:31
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