I am in the process of getting divorced (long story but my husband was a bastard and I've got no sympathy for him).
I had an 8 month affair with a guy I work with who is divorced. We've worked together for three years and have always got on very well. The affair began as an emotional affair and only got physical in the last couple of months. We were intimate on a few occasions but he always had trouble maintaining an erection so we never actually had sexual intercourse. The last time we tried and failed he broke down in tears and told me he had been suffering with ED for years and didn't know what the problem was. He said he felt guilty that he couldn't give me what I wanted and that it would be better for both of us if we ended it. I tried to tell him that I was happy that he could please me in other ways but he wouldn't hear any of it. And that is where it ended or so I thought...
I was very upset that the affair had ended but tried to hold my head up high and carry on my daily duties as normal. He, however, took it quite badly and had to take time off work due to stress. This all happened a couple of months ago. He has since made a full recovery and has started flirting with me again and I don't know what to do about it. I know it's only a matter of time before he asks me out again so I need to prepare myself.
As much as I really like him I'm worried that if I take him back the same thing will happen again. I don't mind not having sexual intercourse but I'm not sure if I can live with the fact that he ended the relationship just because he's suffering with ED. Why did he feel he had to end it? As much as I feel sorry for him he hurt my feelings badly! I hope that doesn't sound unsympathetic but that's how I feel.
I really miss him and want him back but I'm worried that he will hurt my feelings again. What shall I do?
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Should I be sympathetic to his situation or should I tell him to get lost?
WildFlowerWoman · 19/04/2015 21:56
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