First post in relationships so please be gentle. I feel utterly bereft and don't know what to do. 'D' h of 3 years has been lying to me regarding his ex.
I found messages on his facebook account (the ow tipped me off!) basically he was arranging to meet her for sex-was quite explicit about what he wanted to do with her etc and even said to her that I was in the room whilst he was sending these messages and 'if only the bitch knew' referring to me!
He claims that he didn't go ahead with it but, after lots of lies , admitted to giving her a lift home on Tuesday. These messages go back only to the Monday just gone.
I can't eat or sleep, he is claiming to love me, saying it was all a big mistake, can't believe he said those things, was never going to have sex with her. I don't know what to believe. Before all if this I would have said he was a good husband and daddy-the children adore him.
For background, I have 2 children (age 7 and 8) from a previous relationship. They call him daddy-he has brought them up in this capacity since they were young and we have 2 dds (3 and 1) together. We have had a difficult time over the last couple of years both emotionally and financially and he is saying that the stress and the fact that I am difficult to live with (I am) has pushed him into this.
I haven't told anyone in real life as I can't face it. I swing between being upset and angry. We rent our house and I would probably not be able to afford to stay here alone. I don't know if he has had sex with her or not but, that aside, the things that he said and the fact that he was planning to feels overwhelming. I was a single mum to my older 2 children before and the thought of doing that again with 4 children terrifies me. Please help.
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Heartbroken and not sure what to do
Theresomethingaboutdairy · 28/08/2014 09:25
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