I would like some perspective on this please. I separated from my h almost 2 years ago and recently decided to give online dating a go. I met a couple of guys I didn’t really click with but were good for my confidence and then I met someone who I liked, had the chemistry with etc. Things were going really well but I am concerned as it seems like he is pushing and moving too fast. He told me he loved me within about a week.... he texts me really intense message about how I am his life now.... everything he does he does for me.... he pushed to meet my children and against my better judgement I introduced them, all be it as a friend although my dd who is 7 seems to understand that he is my bf although I don’t think she quite gets what that means!
I keep trying to get him to slow down but he is already talking about when we live together – he constantly refers to us being a family together. I have an ok relationship with my ex – we are courteous and civil to one another for the sake of the children and can even be quite friendly but my bf is always saying what a shit Dad he is etc. He isn’t great, and I get to slag him off but feel annoyed when its done by someone who doesn’t even know him!
The latest is that he keeps referring to my youngest by his nickname/pet name that I have for him. Its really irritating me as its personal and only I call him it. Am I being petty?
We are both in our mid/late 40’s so not kids. We both own our own properties although I have considerably more equity than he does and his conversations always involve him selling his home and moving into mine which I am just not comfortable with. On paper he seems perfect – he has a good job, has his own children every other weekend, and seems on good terms with his family and both ex-wives.
What do you think? Is he too good to be true and fallen for me madly, or should I run? I am getting increasingly bad vibes but not sure if I am just being paranoid and would appreciate some advise.
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scottybeammeup · 09/08/2014 18:57
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