My partner of 11 years (married 1 year) had an affair. He says he is depressed and stressed by work, around Easter he changed his behaviours and I knew something was going on. Two weeks later I told my friend and two weeks after that I came down in the morning to find his normally locked iPad unlocked. I looked, I found the evidence I needed. Two days later I sent him a text whilst he was on a work do, she was there too he then lied to her, slept with he and then told her I knew. He didn't come home until following afternoon and admitted to one encounter. Eventually with my pressure and finding more emails he admitted to six month relationship but only met/slept with her seven times. He blamed the depression and said he was in his own bubble of woe-is-me. I love him, I want him ... Have spent the last four weeks talking, making love and checking his emails, calls, etc. I have put her in a box in the loft (metaphorically speaking) and I can contain her. It is not the physical act I have trouble with but the words I have read. In all fairness neither said they loved each other, he just said he had strong feelings of want, desire for her which were different to how he felt about me. Since then we have reconnected and he says whilst down he thinks he was on an ego-trip. He is going to start counselling next week but he also is going back to work, where inevitably he will see her. Am I a fool? He says we are good, he loves me and never wanted to leave me. I still wake in middle of night and check everything for contact none since 27 May. Am I a fool to believe in our relationship or do I make ready for it to happen again? Any past experiences of this appreciated.
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