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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Spring Like Super Spingy Springs On A Springy Day!

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Mouseface Fri 04-Apr-14 19:06:19

Hello everyone, I'm Mouse smile

Welcome to the Bus, Gerald. Of course it's an imaginary Bus, and we're all aware of that, but we've been on this Bus for a bloomin' long time now so this place kinda feels like home. grin

See, the thing is, we're a mix of drinkers, non drinkers, total abstainers, and also posters that are or have been, somewhere in between, around the block and back again!

There are no hard and fast rules here, just No judging, No bitching about others and most certainly No expectations of YOURSELF.

No-one can say what will or will not happen whilst you're posting here. You just have to take the ride, One Day At A Time.

There are two sayings that we have painted down either side of the Bus :-

1) - The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement

2) - Alcohol Fosters Inertia

You've started to read this thread for a reason, and you'll either carry on and maybe Name Change (or not) and post, walk away, or realise that this is all about YOU, cry for a bit, and then come and take a seat smile

For those who would like a bit of our almost 4 year history, have a read of THIS TRULY INSPIRING THREAD

- AND THIS IS OUR PREVIOUS THREAD TO THIS ONE

We're not a quiche or a clicky group, four years is a long time and longer when you're pissed for some of it, so whilst the threads may look 'clicky', I can promise you, it's just that we all 'know' one another because we've been here for a bit but you'll soon get to know us all, who loves what (CHEEEEEEEESE), but we were all 'new posters' at one time, weren't we? smile

lookingforhope Fri 04-Apr-14 20:58:23

Wow, am I really first on the New thread? Me? Am I? Ridiculously excited so putting out cakes, cordial and flowers in the dashboard. Will also pop back onto old thread to make sure all my friends are here. Yayyyy!

JupiterGentlefly Fri 04-Apr-14 23:32:54

Hello I am new to this. 6 days sober.Go me! Looking forward to hearing all about you all

spanna41 Sat 05-Apr-14 13:56:03

Hi Jupiter Day 6 is amazing well done smile we're still on the other thread until it finishes, look for it in relationships under Brave Babe title, see you over there? you will get more Babes reading until it's full up. This bus is full of lovely support x

<<Shuffling to find a seat at the back of the bus and looking around the floor for any random green opal fruits>>

guggenheim Sat 05-Apr-14 14:06:18

oooh time for a new thread!

That is a very nice and inclusive description of the bus mouse

Hi all <big wave>

dementedma Sat 05-Apr-14 20:00:48

Creeps on to bag seat.
HiJupiter well done on 6 days.

Ladame Sun 06-Apr-14 13:08:08

I'm on the bus in the sidecar, on and off, travelling around, keeping up with all brave babes old and new. x

silverring Sun 06-Apr-14 13:38:22

Hi there, I just got onto the bus at the very end of the last thread, but I am now on my 5th day not drinking, after many years of drinking and the past year of what I have to admit now has been pretty heavy drinking.

I have not had withdrawal symptoms per se and am managing to get on with life and work fine, but am feeling a little odd today. A little dizzy and almost like I have had a drink! Fruit juices and beetroot juice have got me through the last few evenings but they are too high in sugar to use them for long (trying to lose weight too! Am a low carber.), so I plan to switch to vegetable juices today.

Hi Jupiter, I'm a day behind you! Well done!

silverring Sun 06-Apr-14 13:46:06

PS I would love to be of support to people but right now I feel a bit strange so may just hang out.

I have been through kicking addictions before (two types of drugs, years ago, more than ten years clean from the last one), and I was successful in that...so hoping I can really do this....

dementedma Sun 06-Apr-14 17:23:04

Just hang out silver ring. Just being here and posting your experiences will help many people.
You are doing really week.
The bus will fill up soon once all the babes come over from the other thread so sit tight and don't let anyone con you into parting with any Opal fruits you may have about your person. They are like gold dust on here and all mine

dementedma Sun 06-Apr-14 17:23:26

Well, not week!!!!

silverring Sun 06-Apr-14 17:27:02

Thanks for the welcome! I thought I'd feel better by now but I feel like I have the flu. Withdrawal I suppose, but I think it is also the psychological effect of the rather shocking realisation that I have actually admitted that I need to do something real about the drinking.

I don't think I've ever had a Opal fruit (more of a chocolate person)!

spanna41 Sun 06-Apr-14 17:45:03

silverring welcome lovely smile yep probably withdrawal, it can come in all sorts of guises, when I did Dry January I had headaches for the first week, horrid metalic taste in my mouth, couldn't sleep - but I promise you it is all worth it in the end grin Oh and by the way if you come across any green opal fruits chuck them to me at the back of the bus, many thanks hmm

Odaat Sun 06-Apr-14 19:22:48

Ohh I am a newbie on the new bus smile sil wring those sugary drinks will help you initially - booze has loads of sugar!

Thats fab you have kicked other addictions in the past smile you must be a strong lady.

I am currently addicted to Easter eggs and ebay ...

Odaat Sun 06-Apr-14 19:23:20

silvering that should have read!

silverring Sun 06-Apr-14 19:28:00

Oh I remain addicted to eBay and no intention to kick that one! Leave me something FFS!!

Odaat Sun 06-Apr-14 19:42:26

Exactly! I am 10lbs over my ideal weight and way into my overdraft ... But I need my food and my ebay. I have no other vices!

What's life without a vice, or two? Haha

lookingforhope Sun 06-Apr-14 20:11:08

Well, hours of work completed (no overtime!) so am about to collapse on the couch and watch Pitch Perfect with DD. Then am going to curl up on the backseat of the bus with a hot chocolate. Don't nick all the blankets before I get there. Am in and out of the sidecar at the moment but not drinking tonight - well, just tea and tomato juice (not together). DS is having amazing time in Portugal training with his running club . Keep remembering this is why I work, to give them things. It's a lonely road paying for everything myself, but I feel proud that I do it.

Silver, Odaat, luckily I can't get the hang of ebay or would be broke. Currently addicted to Maltesers!

Have a good evening brave babes

spanna41 Sun 06-Apr-14 20:19:02

Hope you should be very proud. Pitch Perfect great film smile enjoy your evening. I'll save a blanket for you x

Off to make hot choc, night all thanks

dementedma Sun 06-Apr-14 20:28:09

In the sidecar tonight to round off my love!y weekend. I have discovered that coffee and walnut cake,with honeycomb ice cream and Baileys is a delicious dessert.

silverring Sun 06-Apr-14 20:45:23

I'm also a bit broke and a bit fat....but drank just tomato juice tonight!

aliasjoey Sun 06-Apr-14 20:46:07

<heaves weary self onto Bus>

ma you didn't say No, so I'm assuming I can gatecrash you?! grin Although we probably won't be going to Aberdeen anytime soon...

JupiterGentlefly Sun 06-Apr-14 23:39:29

Hello. I just wanted to say I am 7 days. Its nothing short of a miracle. Looking forward to more af days.

guggenheim Mon 07-Apr-14 08:51:04

Morning babes

Good to see some new babes joining the bus- welcome.
jupiter- that is fab news. How do you feel?

I've been reading a little of the soberistas site,just as it is about to become a fee charging site- typical! I came across this question:

Why do you drink?

Well, I have a million and one reasons from the stupid through to the semi profound hmm but for me it's like a kid being left alone in a sweet shop. I would never be one of those bright delayed gratification types,nope, my gob would be full of sherbert dip before the adult had left the room. To a certain extent I can't help this- I crave alcohol and always will.

My next biggest 'reason' is the need to get out of my mental space or to change my mood quickly,doesn't really matter if I feel bad or good I can justify a drink under any circumstances.

So, for me I will have to battle my relationship with booze for the rest of my life,which I'm ok with. These days I know that sometimes I win, sometimes not. I just need to keep going. I have to channel my energy/fears/needs towards healthy ways to change my mood and feelings. I can't afford to let life get too stressful or that bottle gets opened as soon as.

This is just how it is for me smile

Any thoughts anyone- why do you drink? what got you started?

Anyway- for today I will not be drinking.

JupiterGentlefly Mon 07-Apr-14 09:03:45

Guggenheim . I could have written that post myself. Thats pretty much how I feel. The 'reasons' behind my drinking.
I feel amazing. A little bit evangelical. I am a bit concerned too good to be true?
I am sleeping better and I am not in fear of an af life like I have been when I have given up before. I am taking it day by day but with no plans to drink anytime soon.

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