He is a year older - they were together for a year 15-16 - until he dumped her at the start of her GCSE exams. She was devastated and it impacted her results. Afterwards she told us about his behavior. We just thought he was a sullen teenager - but she told us that he was always angry with her, controlling what she did and where she went, monitoring her phone, putting her down, flying off the handle at her time keeping etc.
We were really upset that we had nt picked up what was going on at the time. We spoke to her about EA in relationships etc but 5 months later they got back together - we were devastated. But after a 2 months he dumped her again.
Now a year later, just before Christmas - they get back together again despite us voicing our concerns. He came to see us - said he was sorry - he had since matured and promised us all would be fine. Three weeks later - another major EA incident - verging on physical - he ripped and destroyed a valuable and sentimental necklace (family heirloom) from her neck in a temper in public.
We have talked and talked and talked and pleaded for her not to see him. She says she loves him and believes she can fix him and help him with his issues (he is from a broken home).
What can we do? Give her an ultimatum - him or us? Would this just push her away - or is this our last chance to influence as she is 17 and still at home. Next year we hope she will be at Uni and we will have no sight of what is going on. She has a really tough few months ahead and needs to knuckle down for her A levels. She does nt need the dramatics of this relationship right now.
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17 yr old dd back with EA boyfriend -- what can I do? Lock her up?
Kitttty · 06/01/2014 18:43
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