My father is constantly criticising me, and it's stretching my temper to breaking point.
Background, he wasn't around much when I was young, parents divorced when I was 12 and he was almost completely absent. The time we did spend together was filled with nasty comments about mum and how she was raising us (she isn't any better, but that's another thread!) Have only tried to have a proper relationship with him since having DS (now 3).
Nothing I do is good enough for him. My choice in career, the fact I haven't got one yet (currently studying), my standards of housework, how I parent...everything I do, he has a comment. I've tried shrugging it off, but I have to deal with it every time I see him. He has no respect for my wishes when DS stays with him, but the time off is all that's keeping me sane right now.
He even chose the nursery for DS, without consulting me, then got angry when I put him into a different one. It's as if he thinks I'm not capable of making these decisions for myself. He is no more qualified to choose than me, since mum was primary carer, so it's just him treating me like a child.
And now he's had another child (stepmother's first). I'm happy for them, if a little concerned about the age gap. I've bitten my tongue rather than ask why they did it. But the criticism has just escalated since she was born, as if somehow having this baby gives him the right to tear me down. He hasn't even given me a chance to meet my baby sister.
I just don't know what to do anymore. Have already gone NC with mum, I don't really want to do the same with dad, but my patience is pretty much gone.
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ParisianTrialByFire · 26/08/2013 09:20
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