I want to leave my OH. I have posted before about this under another name but I need all the support I can.
I feel really overwhelmed about everything. MY OH is manipulating things and playing with my mind so to speak. He is taking away my confidence and chipping away at me piece by piece.
Last night (and this is a silly example) he told me to fuck off as I was trying to straighten the duvet and it got caught on my foot. I know this is not the end of the world but I dont want to be called endless names everyday. I have my faults like anyone else but I work hard to look after my family and I am a good person. I dont want my kids to think it is ok to go around name calling or being a bully. Anyway last night after that duvet incident I was trying to sleep and he decided to put his keys and wallet over on his bedside table.He moved pulling the duvet with him but it jolted me and hurt my back. I feel so silly writing this but i am upset over the crapness of this relationship. Anyway I said to him that was not nice as he hurt my back and he did this 2 other times as a demonstration that he had not hurt me (hurting my back twice more). I wouldnt have got away with that.
My main problems are:
- He tells me i wont cope if i leave him and that i wont manage childcare around work
-He is emotionally abusive (although he has been better as i pulled him up on it last week- He only tells me to fuck off now not the usual twat/cunt etc- big wow)
- He is bad with money (apparently it is me that is bad with money though)
-He tells me he will take away our children (as I am apparently loosing my mind- I have had depression in the past due to being in this poor relationship/struggling with work and childcare and not getting any help round the house)
-He does not do much around the house
-We dont have sex anymore and I dont even like him being near me
I just dont know where to start about leaving. I dont have any savings but I am selling my belongings to make money for use. I work part time and jointly rent. I am on the housing list (although hes on the application too).