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it's a new dawn, it's a new day ..........it dating thread 36!

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lulubellaboozle Fri 11-Jan-13 12:30:38

Post away daters x

grinchie Sat 19-Jan-13 23:10:10

Dolly ask Ike for a go on her sledge too.

Dolly are you sure he wasn't just having an off day?
It's the sort of thing I could easily do: go on a date when I'm feeling ropey rather than cancel it, then get there and be tired/dull.
I'm sorry it didn't go so well.
Will you see him again?

ike1 Sat 19-Jan-13 23:12:56

Yeah sledgin is what you need...super fast runs at the mo...then a shed load of red wine down the local...a walk home that you cant remember and waking up with your contact lenses in a wellies still on! That'll sort you out!!

Thanks both for giving me a ray of hope! We didn't see each other today but he certainly isn't interested in 'chatting' on text like we have been since our lovely second date.
I'd love to see him again but I am waiting for him to suggest it now.

ike1 Sat 19-Jan-13 23:16:06

Well i can advise that I probably would be a less than enthusistic texter with a hangover...and I have professional status re that area at mo..

VelvetSpoon Sat 19-Jan-13 23:17:25

Dolly it's a right PITA when they do that. He might just be a bit shit and hungover (in my experience men are shockingly bad at dealing with hangovers, and just lie around all day being rather 'poor me' about it, rather than manning up, taking a couple of Ibuprofen and a sugary drink and just getting on with things!), he might have gone off the boil. If it's the former, you should hear more from him tomorrow. Fingers crossed.

Agree with Ike life could be worse. I don't have wine, but I do have biscuits and chocolate, which is good enough! Have come over a bit deep and meaningful today as it's my mum's anniversary, I tend to lose the plot a bit in the days leading up to it, but am now feeling oddly peaceful and much more what will be will be - in a positive way (unlike me!).

ike1 Sat 19-Jan-13 23:24:18

I am glad you are feeling peaceful Velv. x

grinchie Sat 19-Jan-13 23:28:32

Yes Velvet I'm glad you're feeling better too.

Ike how do you have a wee in the night with your wellies still on?
Do you get mud in your bed?

lubeybooby Sat 19-Jan-13 23:29:28

Velvet glad here too smile

Nomorepain Sat 19-Jan-13 23:32:29

Most hilarious first date ever!!!!! He was nice, we clicked, our paths have crossed in so many ways. Weird. He was good looking, looked lovely, ticked my boxes, conversation flowed first hour was good. The spark was there. Not a massive lightening strike but a definate connection. Then he looked at his phone. 30 missed calls off his ex, calls off his mum and sister. His child was poorly. So we had to cancel date!! He dropped me home (we live 5 mins away) and then have been texting all night and he's asked to take me out again. He was nice but ex sounds complicated. My life is complicated enough!!!! His child wasn't ill by the way!! I'm not that cruel!

ike1 Sat 19-Jan-13 23:34:42

Sofa Grinchie...

ike1 Sat 19-Jan-13 23:35:26

Sounds good Nomore if odd...

ike1 Sat 19-Jan-13 23:35:54

My mate peddles Shewees..now there is a thought...

VelvetSpoon Sat 19-Jan-13 23:37:56

Aw thanks everyone smile I've had some lovely (and quite unexpected) messages today, I'm always surprised when people are nice to me (god knows what that says about me!)

In other news I have also booked a holiday to Turkey for me and the DSs for the summer, we will be living on dust til then but am quite excited grin never been to Turkey before!

Still no update from NoMore? Hope thats a good sign!

OWW if you are still reading the thread I think having a bit of time away from the thread isn't a bad move. I found I needed to last year as I found reading tales about people having great dates - and Coffee - when I wasn't didn't help my feeling a bit shit. Any threads/forums we frequent regularly can be a bit like online dating itself - sometimes taking a break for a while does us good. Come back refreshed.

VelvetSpoon Sat 19-Jan-13 23:39:27

Ooh x-post!

So are you going to see him again? Or is the Ex thing putting you off?

Nomorepain Sat 19-Jan-13 23:47:07

Puts me off but I think I do want to see him again. He seems really sweet. Don't think I am his usual type of girlf though. He said he's never had a girl that has had a career. And he likes that I am driven and motivated

lubeybooby Sat 19-Jan-13 23:49:34

More info needed to know if I'd be put off or not - were the calls from his ex just because she's a bit mad and calling for no reason at all, or is he meant to be picking the child up from her tomorrow or something? Or is the child really young, like a baby?

Werre mum and sister calling because they were babysitting?

VelvetSpoon Sat 19-Jan-13 23:50:45

I think give it another go, see what happens smile

It's nice he likes you having a career. I've only met 1 bloke who was in any way impressed by what I do! this is my fault for mainly dating thick as shit builders and the like

grinchie Sat 19-Jan-13 23:57:51

Yup nomore I'm with lubey here, more info needed.
He sounds alright though, well done you smile

Nomorepain Sat 19-Jan-13 23:58:29

Yes the child is a baby. Really young one. Which feels odd goven my own circumstances. No his mum and sister got in touch because his ex was calling them too. She didn't know he was on a date. He had been with the kids today. He said she is using the kids against him. He wasn't ranting or moaning just seemed genuinely sad with the whole situation. It is defo over between them but she struggles to accept it.
I'm torn but massively flattered that he likes me. Always feels unreal that someone might actually be interested in me!!

grinchie Sat 19-Jan-13 23:59:10

Yeah Velvet trouble is thick as shit builders practical men have a certain charm I find.

lubeybooby Sun 20-Jan-13 00:01:25

Ok that sounds not too bad then Nomore. If I had an ill young baby and wasn't wait the dad i'd be trying everything to contact him as well... probably just a few calls and a voicemail though but I can see how other women might worry a lot more and call more.

Nomorepain Sun 20-Jan-13 00:02:54

The baby wasn't ill. She used it as an excuse to get him there! That's what worries me. He did the decent thing going to check though!!

lubeybooby Sun 20-Jan-13 00:03:49

Oh eek, not so good then. Do you think he handles her well?

lubeybooby Sun 20-Jan-13 00:04:19

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