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it's a new dawn, it's a new day ..........it dating thread 36!

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lulubellaboozle Fri 11-Jan-13 12:30:38

Post away daters x

lulubellaboozle Fri 11-Jan-13 19:54:29

Srcazy no problem! the silly thing I do grin from ear to ear, it's hard to explain the contrast of emotions.

Mercury I'm hoping that my counselling is going to help find away to deal with it all. Liking someone or loving someone makes you so vunerable and that's what I hate, being open to being hurt again.

Scrazy Fri 11-Jan-13 20:12:47

I think it's normal to feel angsty when you really like someone and it's early days. It's good in a way and doesn't happen with many guys.

Snapespeare Fri 11-Jan-13 20:27:01

Place mark. Been messaged by a Glasweigan who lives in Aylesbury on OKC. I will NEVER meet him, as although he is a high match 94%, single dad to two (far too young) boys, he's the same height as me and Glasweigan. I honestly can't abide the accent anymore.

Picky, picky, picky.

Scrazy Fri 11-Jan-13 20:28:21

Question about POF. If someone has sent you a message and you haven't replied do you still come up as being on-line in the row about your inbox?

Scrazy Fri 11-Jan-13 20:33:54

OK, I think I've worked it out as not!

grinchie Fri 11-Jan-13 20:34:58

mercury no office flirtation because you work from home?
Flirt with yourself, maybe? smile

fayster Fri 11-Jan-13 20:40:20

Lulu, glad he's proving to be a good'un. Just a thought, as well, if it's happened 4 times in 4/5 months, there couldn't be a hormonal influence, could there? Like Bant said, do be kind to yourself after a counselling session.

OWW, yours sounds good too, hope your chat goes well and you feel brave enough to share what you want to.

I used to get that panicky, self-doubting feeling too, but I don't with Mr Walking. It could be that that's because I just don't have strong enough feelings for him, but I actually think it's because I'm in a better place than I have been in previous relationships. My self-esteem and self-confidence are higher than they've ever been, and for the first time in my life, I genuinely believe that it's up to me to decide if a relationship is worth pursuing.

Have a great date, Bill!

lulubellaboozle Fri 11-Jan-13 20:58:42

fayster you must be a mind reader! I was just working out that I am due on this weekend and the first time it happened it was the day my period started and our second date ( so you have to hand it to him for not getting spooked)!! I'm going to check my diary for the other occasions now!

lubeybooby Fri 11-Jan-13 21:08:06

Ugh, I'm so tired. Glad this week is done.

Have a great date Bill!

I have decided to stop doing the asking with Mr iPhone. His turn now, though he did send a lovely message after the last date there's been nothing since. It's weird because I know if I text he would be happy and if I asked to see him he would in a heartbeat. So why not take the initiative you prat

Looking forward to seeing Ashton TallToy tomorrow though grin

mercury7 Fri 11-Jan-13 21:19:45

flirt with myself?
what you mean like, wink, as I pass the mirror grin

ike1 Fri 11-Jan-13 22:05:51

Merc I love a good gurn in the mirror...sets me up for the day!

grinchie Fri 11-Jan-13 22:35:49

mercury yes, why not? At least you won't have the 'who pays the bill' problems grin

smoothieooo Fri 11-Jan-13 23:29:57

Evening all

Lots going on with you all.

I have my first Match date tomorrow since Mr Punchy in Cambridge. Charidee worker based in Islington. We haven't yet spoken but are meeting for a couple of hours at 6. We'll see...

In other news, I was told by a work colleague today (who'd been watching Celeb Big Brother) that she thinks I look like Paula Hamilton. Great. An ex-alcoholic, raddled old has-been hmm

Bant Sat 12-Jan-13 00:16:45

Sorry Smoothie. You look nothing like her. Your mail profile picture reminded me of penelope cruz, more than anyone else to be honest smile

Well quick update from date with Mr Vague. He kept his hands off, no pouncing at all, I felt much more comfortable and there was a very, very brief snog at the end shock.

thingersandfumbs Sat 12-Jan-13 00:48:17

So, as a newbie here (on this thread, not on MN!) which sites are best? I registered on POF tonight and although there are some nice looking men there (which is obv the best way to judge character hmm) there are also some right tits!

Are there other sites which you would recommend?

ike1 Sat 12-Jan-13 01:13:15

Goodness me Jules could be a slow burner then...

Scattylatte Sat 12-Jan-13 07:51:53

Morning
Seems a much better experience juliette. Got to ask....what was he wearing?

Got date 3 with fireman Wednesday. I think it'll morph into a casual thing. He sometimes asks me if I consider him my plaything. Not sure what that means.

Got messaged by someone minus photo on pof. I asked for a photo and he got all uppity saying obviously 'it's just the body that counts'. He wanted an explanation as to why I wanted a photo. I gave up in the end.

OhWesternWind Sat 12-Jan-13 08:31:27

Well, that sounds an awful lot better, Juliette. Do you think you might see him again? Was any money spent?

Scatty - does he sound happy at the prospect of being your plaything? Otherwise it sounds like he's angling for something less casual ....

LM's back from his trip today but has his dcs for the rest of the weekend. So it's going to be into next week when I see him. Logistically it's difficult for us sometimes but at the moment I really want to see him so I'm finding it hard. Never mind, it'll only be a couple of days.

lubeybooby Sat 12-Jan-13 08:32:09

Morning all!

thingers I've come to the conclusion there's not much difference between sites really. You will still have a lot of unwanted messages, idiots etc wherever you go. PoF is possibly the worst due to sheer numbers of members.

Scatty you did the right thing giving up there. What a prat. (him)

lubeybooby Sat 12-Jan-13 08:33:02

OWW, aww keep busy where possible and it will fly by

watchoutforthatsnail Sat 12-Jan-13 08:42:29

morning - i agree with lubey, idiots on all sites.

Just checking something.. im talking to this guy on match. I actually fancy him, which is a bit different, as ususally its all a bit 'meh'. Emails are great, funny, lenghtly affairs, but only one a day. He only logs in in the working day and not at all during evenings nor weekends. We have been chatting since just after xmas and hes not asked for my number, nor asked to meet up, yet the emails are full of ' we should do.....' or ' how funny would it be if we....'
hes married or something, isnt he?

Other than him there is nothing on the radar at all. Since im actually now only going to go on dates with men i fancy and am excited about meeting, that has cut it down to almost nil.

or nil plus one thats most likely married.

Have just cancelled my match sub......cant really see the point of paying to not fancy anyone.

Scattylatte Sat 12-Jan-13 09:32:31

watch it's hard to tell. I've mailed men who are only there for 'chatting' as they call it. It's frustrating. My experience tells me if they don't ask to meet after a week or so there will some reason why. Could you suggest it? If he says no for limp reasons or backs out then you can decide whether you want a pen friend.

oww my instincts tell me he is ok with casual. He is a bit of a mix tbh. Not a prolific texter, not many phone calls. I do the organising 'are you free wed' and he has always been free on the dates I suggest. He tells me he really enjoys our dates, insists in paying, drives to meet me. He has asked why am I interested in him when I'm much cleverer than him (I'm not) and has said on 2 occasion 'I think I'm just a whimpiscal plaything to you' and text it too. Who knows!

watchoutforthatsnail Sat 12-Jan-13 09:38:04

scatty, ive found the same, if they dont ask, its because they dont want to.
Ill see what happens after the weekend..... im not going to ask him, if he wanted a date, he would ask.

Scattylatte Sat 12-Jan-13 09:41:31

That's it. Thing is even though they are on a dating site they may have very little intention of actually dating!

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