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If nothing ends up happening with him then I'm considering a quick revisit to PoF IE section to find myself a new FWB... hopefully it won't get to that point though

Hopefully Velvet

well, he said he really wanted to see me and was sorry about cancelling etc, so I said we should look upon it as postponing and when did he want to postpone to - he suggested saturday.

hopefully we will both have dates Lubey

I expect he thought turning up looking or feeling like death would be riskier then

I completely understand Velvets point, though. Having to cancel/postpone a first date is very bad form. Having to postpone a second date (which this would be, right Velvet?) is still on dangerous ground - risking the other person thinking you're unreliable. It's always risky, especially if you think the other person is out of your league. Which Spaceman does.

It being re-arranged already is good!

My second date might be Saturday too, he's gonna let me know tomorrow apparently when he's checked out some work stuff

lubey I'm just being a bit of a princess about it, no history of cancelling!

Rearranged for Saturday evening (barring either of us cancelling in the meantime of course!)

When is it re-arranged for?

oooh and yes what OWW said. I could have dragged myself along to a date today but I'd have been yawning, not looking my best and slightly grumpy. Not good! Don't worry Velvet honestly

Velvet I don't get it - 'risking' cancelling?

I mean... unless he has a history of cancelling a lot then he will likely be very confident that a cancellation won't mean he is dumped. It wouldn't even cross my mind tbh if I had to cancel on someone, especially if my reasons were solid (I do think his are solid enough anyway) I would just be apologetic and presume they would be ok with meeting another time.

However I did miss most of thread 32 so if he has got that history then I take it back!

he did say he didnt want to see me when he was tired and in a crappy mood Western so you might be right.

sounds like you've had a fab day though with LM. Really pleased for you

Sorry Velvet cross posted. I think he wants to be at his best when you meet to minimise the chances of you being disappointed ...

Sorry Velvet cross posted. I think he wants to be at his best when you meet to minimise the chances of you being disappointed ...

Ike sounds like you had a brilliant time. Nothing awful, just good fun.

48 how's your mum doing? You ready to rock?

Velvet how very disappointing. Last minute let downs are just the worst. But it does sound like he has a reasonable excuse especially if he has to be up early tomorrow. Has he said anything else?

Got woken up by a phone call from LM and then spent the day with him, all the children and his mum at the park and having a meal. Wonderful. Children all get on too ... Life is good. Not firing on all cylinders today so am having a little lie down to recover.

Yes, last night he said he thought I was out of his league. But if he does think that, would he really risk cancelling?....

We have hopefully rearranged.

I am a bit disappointed, but tbh I feel a bit shit myself so its probably for the best!

Aargh multi-x-posts in between both parts of my post!

Oops! On phone.

*would want to go on a date feeling like death warmed up. And, from messaging you, could he maybe have got the impression that you're such a totally cool person that him cancelling wouldn't bother you? But it's bad form and in your shoes I'd be pissed off and disappointed. Not a dealbreaker though!

Velvet no way could I manage a date today. I might have thought I could earlier but then I suddenly felt awful and had a three hour nap! Glad I wasn't ment to be doing anything else. I'm sure he's telling the truth, don't be negative... plus he has to go to work as well, I really wouldn't worry

Velvet -didn't he already say he thought you were too good looking to be interested in him?

Let him do the running on this one. Act cool, don't stress. It's a perfectly justifiable reason for not meeting - turning up to meet someone fantastic whilst knowing you look like you've been dragged through a hedge backwards.

...or a bottle and a half of Cava in my case...

velvet that sucks. How apologetic was his message? Agree with others that he most likely does have a dreadful hangover, and who would want to go on a date

Oh Arse that has made me laugh.....that's middle aged womdn for you up for anything after a few Tia Marias

Well, there you go then. Two perfectly sensible reasons for not wanting to go out, neither of which indicate that he doesn't fancy you.

There you go then, he might not want to admit to being hungover. Or he might have been pole dancing, like Ike.

( that's just reminded me, I had a patient a couple of weeks ago, middle aged, perfectly respectable woman who when I asked how she'd injured herself, paused for a moment, then said that she'd had a couple of drinks, saw a pole, and decided to give it a go - a cautionary tale for us all )