Note: Mumsnetters don't necessarily have the qualifications or experience to offer relationships counselling or to provide help in cases of domestic violence. Mumsnet can't be held responsible for any advice given on the site. If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support.

Crotch grabbing, jelly nailing, double-quick portions and man parts floating in a pear tree...dating thread 33 survived Christmas so bring on NYE!

(1000 Posts)
OhLittleTownofWesternWind Wed 26-Dec-12 00:14:51

Here we are!

Mercury yes intellectual wavelength is spot on. I sometimes miss common sense things that are obvious to other people but I do need to be able to talk about anything of interest whether it is banal or esoteric without getting a blank look or the classic 'what are you on about'. I'm comfortable when I feel I am on a similar level with someone. It's just more fun, more banter, more depth of understanding, more common ground. It's not about formal education, it is about being able to 'get' the things I find important and for me to respect and hopefully 'get' theirs.

MsArsebiscuit Wed 26-Dec-12 16:41:18

Juliette, re the sex thing, you are so right, and you too, Mercury with the 'sensuality' point - sensuality seems to be a very rare quality, I think I've probably only had two relationships with men who were genuinely sensual. (That's probably for the best though as I was absolutely head over heels with each of them, it may be my Achilles' Heel along with funny men ) .

I think I need a shag.

mercury7 Wed 26-Dec-12 16:55:09

i think it's rare to find someone that you can really connect with sexually, great when it happens, but usually an unexpected oasis in a desert of insatiable and unfullfilled longings..

Or is that just me? grin

MsA I have noticed that the more sex gets pornified, the less sensuality there is. Going at it like a jack hammer and a bit of 'booty' slapping hmm does not make good in bed. A friend of mine had her face slapped the other day which was a huge mistake as she is a hairdresser in a close community grin

MsArsebiscuit Wed 26-Dec-12 17:00:58

No, not just you. God knows what would happen to me if I met someone who loved sex, wanted to shag me every day and was good at it.

Mercury it's odd how a man who is technically good in bed can just leave you cold. This is a deal breaker for me, a truly passionate man who is willing to tune in and learn a few things will always score over the stud muffin.

MsArsebiscuit Wed 26-Dec-12 17:05:57

Juliette, I agree, but then I think that a lot of men equate 'doing it for hours' to being 'good in bed' . Disclaimer - I was in a sexually rationed marriage for a long time, with a man who thought doing it with the lights on was a bit racy so I may not be an authority on the matter.

notthegrinch Wed 26-Dec-12 17:17:21

Hi new thread grin

MsA your post of 17.00.58

It is possible grin

notthegrinch Wed 26-Dec-12 17:26:31

I only went on one OD and 2 months later we are going out together properly.
So I'm not really in a position to give OD tips but this what worked for me:

(For straight women) if you see a man you like the look of approach him.

To do this send a pithy message of one or two lines, don't use text speak and check the spelling & punctuation.

If you meet someone and like them don't think about 'when should I get back in touch' if you like them the time to get back in touch is as soon as you want to.

When you've met someone a few times and you like them give the OD a rest for a while. No-one is perfect and if you are still looking the people on OD can seem like a better potential fit when you hit a pothole with the current person.

MariahScarey Wed 26-Dec-12 17:40:17

Also from reading bios. Yawn at the "my friends tell me". (As well as DVD beach country pub shit)

Yogagirl17 Wed 26-Dec-12 17:55:39

48 LOL at the crowded beach!

Kirsty Ugh, sorry your schedules aren't working out this week but try and remember that no matter what you are doing this NYE...IT WILL BE BETTER THAN LAST YEAR.

VelvetSpoon Wed 26-Dec-12 18:06:25

Yoga I know it's early but I'd like to suggest more pound shop than sweetie shop for the next thread grin

I need a slap with Juliette's wet fish. Ongoing texting between me and spaceman has revealed he is funny, and properly clever as well. And he's v v attractive. He's making me something for our date. It's all going too well.

Alittlestranger Wed 26-Dec-12 18:12:28

delurks Velvet is he new to OD? He seems to be investing a lot before you've actually met? lucky bugger clearly hasn't been burnt before.

lulubellaboozle Wed 26-Dec-12 18:15:39

Hi all, place marking and catching up ...

KirstyWirsty Wed 26-Dec-12 18:16:07

Yoga thanks for the reality check .. You are right .. I still feel really down though ...

'Velvet' the fish is available, you know where it is grin

MsArsebiscuit Wed 26-Dec-12 18:17:42

Juliette, god I hope so but can't help but feel hugely sceptical.

Velvet, I'm not going to slap you with a wet fish, I think you should be enjoying the moment, it's about time you had some fun.

VelvetSpoon Wed 26-Dec-12 18:32:39

Alittle no, he's been OD for a while, with about as much success as me ie none. It's nothing major he's making me, so not really much effort, just something we've been joking about.

I will now slap myself with the fish smile

Velvet when is your date?

VelvetSpoon Wed 26-Dec-12 18:47:34

Friday afternoon. Just coffee (small c!)

Nomorepain Wed 26-Dec-12 19:08:32

Hello I'm about to join march.com!! Anyone got a code?? Think Snape may have mentioned one the other day

I am going to KILL the ex! How did I ever manage to live with him for 7 years?! Stabstabstabstabstabstabstabstab!!!

<checks on Snape and closes knife drawer>

48howdidthathappen Wed 26-Dec-12 19:34:08

juliette mercury Sex is of massive importance to me. I can't believe it has taken me this long to find the REAL deal with Mr R&R. I have had plenty of good sex, this is a whole new ball game.

He geniunely likes women. Very sensual. Reads me like a book. Wants his partner to have maximum pleasure, this increases his. Nothing technical or porno, he just knows. I have hit the jack pot smile very, very lucky. Also fun in a mad as a hatter kinda way. A trip to Tesco with him is an experience grin

Cherry on the top. No game playing. We are both straight talkers.

Just got to get rid of Mr F U. Back to trying to lure me in again, texting how he admires my attitude blah blah. Bullshit. May just tell him I am engaging elsewhere.

This thread is not accepting new messages.