Has anyone else experienced similar? I'm feeling quite awful. I last saw my Mum in 2003, when we had a massive argument. I had finally realised that the reason my life had been such a painful disaster (I was 31 at the time), was because of my atrocious childhood and the actions of my Mother. I confronted her over it and we had a massive argument. I left in a terrible state (she was eager to get rid of me) and over the next few days went in to meltdown and tried to kill myself. What followed was 3 years of psychotherapy and a very slow process of change.
I had a daughter 2 years ago, and becoming a Mother finally gave me a strong sense of self and a purpose in life. One week ago, I felt ready to make contact with my Mum again, pretty convinced she'd still be alive. I discovered she'd died in 2008 aged 64, from lung cancer. She had been living the life of a recluse in a caravan in a farmers field. I had seen this existence in 2003, but feel very sad for my Mum that she carried on living like that.
I feel so sorry for her that she didn't get to see me as she was dying. I'm feeling guilty and desperately sad for how she chose to live her life. I know that I wouldn't have been strong enough to see her before now, but the guilt is still there.
Anyone with a similar experience?
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MrsIgglePiggle · 20/12/2012 20:47
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