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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Spicing Up The Winter Nights With Rich Hot Chocolate And Thermal Tights!

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Mouseface Tue 27-Nov-12 21:13:48

Hello, I'm Mouse smile

I'm one of the Brave Babes travelling on this fantabulous Bus, on it's journey to the wonderful world of sobriety. smile

The great thing is, that the people on here are a real mixed bunch. Some are drinking regularly, some aren't. Some are sober and have been for any number of days, some weeks, months and yep, some even for years.

There's no judging pants allowed, no savoury flans either wink, just lots of unconditional support from many varied sources. Yes, some of us have been here from the start but please don't let that stop you posting, this thread is for EVERYONE and it always has been smile

If you'd like to have a look back, here are some links. One to the previous thread and one to the very first, and the reason we are all still here.

See you soon,

Mouse xx

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FIRST EVER THREAD

babyjane1 Thu 29-Nov-12 18:37:08

Hey babes, I'm feeling very anxious tonight, Thursday is always always my favourite wine night, oldest dd stays with my mum so I'm free to drink without onlooking dismay, Kiki you are same day as me, need some help, it's been a long and stressful day and I really want a big glass of wine!!! X x x

kotinka Thu 29-Nov-12 18:51:26

Sunny Bloody hell, your workload is worse than mine!

kotinka Thu 29-Nov-12 18:53:55

Babyjane - how many days have you done without now?

Ma's HALT thing helped me, Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, deal with those things first & see if the craving passes.

Why was today stressful for you?

Sunnywithachanceofshowers Thu 29-Nov-12 18:57:35

kotinka Not really, it's only 3 essays a term - I've just been really slapdash and not done them in good time! grin

Hang in there babyjane - I know what you mean about Thursdays being a good night, it was where my 'weekend' started. What else can you do tonight while your oldest dd isn't there?

babyjane1 Thu 29-Nov-12 19:15:55

I'm on night 4 and it's been a hectic day with kids and thursday always seems close of enough to the weekend that it's socially and morally acceptable. It's been so easy up til now but with hyper critical dd not here it seems sooooo tempting. I'm stupidly thinking most "normal" mums enjoy a pre weekend drink, I know what I'm doing, I'm normalising wine drinking, I knew thurs Friday sat would be my real danger zone, it's cold, the fire is on and wine seems the missing link, I'm trying to work through this feeling x x x

greeneyed Thu 29-Nov-12 19:36:49

Baby hang in there, I'm in exactly the same space let's gang up on the wine witch together!!! Plan A clean house as have guests coming tomorrow, plan B take off makeup, brush teeth put on jammies then wait upstairs till wine witch has gone (usually around 9pm) what's your plan? feel free to follow mine smile

helpyourself Thu 29-Nov-12 19:58:55

Hang in there Babes play the movie to the end. Think of alcohol as the loser abusive ex boyfriend.

babyjane1 Thu 29-Nov-12 20:01:49

green I'm cleaning out my bedroom and changing my beds so I will appreciate a nice fresh bed, then it's a nice bath and paint my nails red, should me up to 9 oclock also and the worst will be over, thanks green it helps having a kindred spirit, sending you a hug x x x

Mouseface Thu 29-Nov-12 20:40:42

Evening, tis me, Mouse

Distraction, distraction, DISTRACTION! <stern face>

What would you do with a toddler throwing the mother of all tantrums in public? Me? I distract Nemo and it works.

Bath, book, bed, fresh sheets, painting of nails, bit of beauty therapy, reading a book you've only thought about picking up because you knew you'd fall asleep pissed and forget the lot.....

Do something to pass the time and go to bed with a clear head, wake refreshed, feeling victorious and vibrant. What have you got to lose? smile

I know that Christmas is not far off, I know that a lot of the babes will be thinking of it all ready, worrying........ stop. Wait. Think about it nearer the time. The Bus will still be here, it never shuts it's doors so you all best wrap up tonight because boy it's colder than a wine witches boob out there!! grin

Plus Jupiter is out again looking wonderful smile

I'm going to take my boy to bed as he's struggling with reality and trauma induced fiction right now...... lots of crying still but DH is home and boy does that make my life easier..... I've been cooked a hot meal.

Anyway, you are all doing bloody brilliantly so keep it up!!

Sleep well Babes,

Mouse xxxxxx

PS - Jesus - you're recycling your handbag and shoes? <faints> wink Fabufabbytastic to see you here lovely, I hope life with you is fine and dandy xxxx

greeneyed Thu 29-Nov-12 21:25:33

Well done * baby*! Hope the witch has gone, she's still hanging around here as I'm really wired tonight but I'm sure as hell not giving in to her now mouse love the cold boob comment grin Random I couldn't see Jupiter tonight but it was really bright last night - I was stood out in my dressing gown and slippers looking at it through my binos - hope non of the neighbours saw me - right will be off to have another look now! mouse hope you and Nemo sleep tight sending soothing thoughts through the ether to him x

kikilondon Thu 29-Nov-12 21:50:42

Well done baby! You can't let me down, sobriety buddy!!

kikilondon Thu 29-Nov-12 21:52:57

I've been ok as only just home...cup of tea and biscuit for me! Pub tomorrow but driving so will be on the lime and soda

Tristessa Thu 29-Nov-12 21:53:40

Well done everyone smile

I've dug out my, "Just for Today" card which I used to read each morning. I was at a meeting a couple of weeks ago and the literature cupboard was locked so instead of someone reading it from the card at the start, we did it as a group, all chipping in the bits we knew. All supporting each other - made me quite tearful.

Here is the text if anyone is interested:

Just for today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.

Just for today I will be happy. Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.

Just for today I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my luck as it comes, and fit myself to it.

Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.

Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count. I will do at least two things I don’t want to do just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show it.

Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, keep my voice low, be courteous, criticize not one bit. I won’t find fault with anything, nor try to improve or regulate anybody but myself.

Just for today I will have a program. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. I will save myself from two pests: hurry and indecision.

Just for today I will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax. During this half hour, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective of my life.

Just for today I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.

Tristessa Thu 29-Nov-12 21:57:48

P.s Some of you may remember that I passed my fourth driving test the first time I tried after a break from alcohol. I still maintain that the bit about not hurrying OR being indecisive helped me at roundabouts grin

greeneyed Thu 29-Nov-12 22:17:52

Tritessa, that's interesting, pleased it works so well for you. It seems a bit too much and overwhelming for me to contemplate all in one day but I'd like to pinch just 1-4 smile

babyjane1 Thu 29-Nov-12 22:29:46

Well babes Ive managed another night, after eating my body weight in
Chocolate but hey you pick your battles eh!!!!! A point I need to make most strenuously is that before I found you guys i'd be on my second bottle without a doubt, how can strangers change the course of my life!!! Eternally baffled and grateful, night night my lovelies x x x x

Tristessa Thu 29-Nov-12 22:31:30

It's too much for me, too, greeneyed - can't say I've ever managed that quiet half hour all to myself hmm

kotinka Thu 29-Nov-12 22:34:51

Babyjane, that's fantastic news, I'm really pleased for you. Sorry I had to cut & run earlier, the kids are ill with yet another virus.

Hey folks, I've started counselling for my binge drinking & for my anxiety which I suppose are separate issues. I have so loved all the support from here. Have been doing so so well with the alcohol & wine, but tonight was really stressful & lure of wine was too strong. Bought a bottle & went somewhere where I knew it would be chilled! Thought I'll have a glass but have now drunk bottle & sitting watching pineapple express! Have texted neighbour asking of she has cigs?' there is now no more alcohol but I want more plus a cigarette plus anything else if it's going!

kotinka Thu 29-Nov-12 22:39:39

Hiya clutter, nice to see you again, think I've missed you for a while?

What are your plans for tomorrow? If you drink any more can you picture what tomorrow will be like?

greeneyed Thu 29-Nov-12 22:47:23

Well done baby - you should be reet proud of yourself smile - Tritessa yeah that would probably be the most difficult to manage grin I'm sorry Ohclutter listen to kotinka, think about tomorrow and not tonight

kotinka Thu 29-Nov-12 23:00:31

You ok clutter?

kotinka Thu 29-Nov-12 23:12:03

Off for an early night, hope you all have a peaceful night
xxx

Fell asleep on the sofa Kotinka, have terrible headache this morning sad Why is wine so addictive? Hope all babes doing ok xx

PurpleWolfe Fri 30-Nov-12 08:14:40

Morning Babes and good luck for today! Hope you all stay warm in this perishing weather.

6 week 'anniversary' today! Who knew!? Am going out for lunch with a friend who's birthday is today. I've given up wine and lost nearly a stone and a half since I saw her last! Just need to concentrate on body-swerving the wine with the meal - always a good excuse to 'legitimately' drink in the past.

Hugs to everyone and will check back later and write more <and make hot chocolate and chocolate digestives for everyone> Got to go and have a luxurious bath, paint nails and pamper myself before going.

Laters p'taters!!

Boing!

xx

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